Cheating Husband

Hi. So I have this scenario that's very painful to me. My husband has been checked out of our marriage for a while. Recently I learned that he had a year long emotional affair with a woman he met. From day one he told her he didn't love his wife and never did (our marriage was arranged in our country of origin and he was in love with another girl before we married). He told her he believed marriage and love to be two separate things. On top of that, he assassinated my character. He told her I'm ignorant, stupid, only interested in his wallet, a failure of a mother, terrible in bed with no appetite for sex, I have no ambition or interests, that he wished our kids had turned out better. He even said I'm not attractive. From what I learned, the other woman asked him on several occasions if he could say anything positive about me at all, but he couldn't. He even got angry at her for trying to defend me in my absence. He constantly mentioned wanting to leave me and kept talking about divorce, but said he didn't have the heart to leave his kids and lose more than half of his life's savings. When he was out with her, he would ignore my calls for hours and come home at crazy times. What do I with my husband? How can he love me if this is the way he voluntarily talks about me with another woman (who he said I love you too) and spent hours with in an emotional affair, no sex?