Confused
I’ve been seeing a guy since October and everything has been great but then on Saturday he stopped replying to my messages and eventually replied on Monday night apologising for not replying because he’s been dealing with a lot over the weekend and wants to focus on himself more for a bit but has been online so I don’t get why he couldn’t reply sooner I think he might just be talking to his close friends from home and his family but I went to see him today bc I had to get something from his student accommodation and he said I’ve not done anything wrong he just wants to focus on himself and uni and that he’s had a lot of family issues over the weekend so he’s too stressed to go out and do stuff when he’s dealing with that so he just wants to deal with it before anything else and I said when he’s ready to talk he knows where to find me and that I’m there for him he said “ I do thank you” I can’t tell if he’s genuinely going through something or just planning on ghosting me
Hi, sorry to hear what you are going through right now. It must be really confusing for you. I would like to share something with you from when I was younger. I did similar thing as he does to you, just broke up with my girlfriend by saying that I need to focus more on me, on studies, which wasn’t really the truth but was a easy way out without pointing out what was went between us, this wasn’t the right way I realized after, as everyone deserve the truth. He could just really want to focus on himself, but if he cared for you he would have handeled the situation with more affection I would say. Eitherway, as a man now, I would say that it won’t be worth it to wait around for him till he gets bores and wanted to talk. If you don’t know if he is going through something, ask him. Best way to sort it out is through communication, and if there is none from hes side, the truth is he never he never cared enough. For the fact that you are sitting on forum trying to make it right, could mean that your intentions were good with him. Focus on yourself, there are other man’s who are craving for your vibes. Take good care of you!
Hey, thank you I think it just confuses me because from his messages my mate said by the way he’s writing it seems like he is going through something so to give him some time because some guys like to deal with it on their own. He normally talks to me about stuff like this but I guess if it’s a big thing and to
do with family or upsetting to him he might not want to seem vulnerable so is probably only talking to his close friends from home and his family. What do you think?
Hi, it is difficult to jugde from my point of view as you are the one living in the situation. From my experience, guys don’t share their feelings and problems with the people they don’t fully trust or care enough about them, this is just my experience and it does not necessarilly needs to be your reallity. Your are in control now and by time I know you gonna handle the situation correctly. Giving someone the time they need and focus on yourself it’s never a bad idea. Take care.
Hi, this sounds like a really difficult situation for you, I’m sorry to hear he’s not appearing to make as much of an effort as he used to. He may truly be going through something, and it sounds like you’ve given him the benefit of the doubt so far, which is really caring of you. Like others have mentioned, this may not be the case, it could simply be an easy way out for him. Either way, I’d personally try to approach him for a conversation to clear things up. Maybe explain that you do sympathise with him and that he’s going through a tough time, but that his actions are also affecting you. Hopefully, he can give you a more detailed explanation of what he’s thinking in regards to his struggles, and your relationship.
Wishing you the best of luck!