Current Problem
So, my boyfriend and I had a serious conversation last night. I have self destructive behaviors where I cannot find my personal happiness. I don’t want to lose him because I do love and care for him. So my question is, how does one find internal self happiness? Because I’m tired of being self destructive of myself and making it reflect out to others.
Hi there, I’m glad you shared. I’ve been here as well, with my boyfriend. We‘ve lived together for over a year now and have been on a journey together. I used to be very self destructive before I met him and it seeped into our relationship. I think the first steps is acknowledging this behaviour and talking about it. From there on I asked my boyfriend to let me know when I’m doing something that seems like old behaviour. We can create new behavioural patterns in our brains by correcting ourselves. Reading about it has definitely helped me. Hopefully the rest (inner happiness) will come along the way. Learning how to self soothe, love and forgive yourself are big things that I’m still learning. Good luck and hope to hear from you and others 🌷