Did I cheated?
Hello,
me and my boyfriend are together for 5 years now.. I love him so much, he is my rock, my everything. There were a few mistakes he did but who doesn't in a relationship? We have always been honest with each other about everything.. well almost always.. a few months ago I did something stupid. A guy that I used to talk to (before meeting my bf) over the internet texted me saying hi, how are you. At first I didn't think anything of it because he had a gf and he saw on instagram that I have a bf. He quickly began making inappropriate comments and he sent me a picture of himself naked stating that he things about me. He then begged me to send him a nude picture of myself.. and he convinced me. I sent him a nude picture and we talked and talked.. I felt wanted and I felt a desire bit only temporary. Let me say that I didnt see him in person ever.. it was all via texts. I barely even saw him in his face.. so I have no idea why I did that. I feel so ashamed and I want to puke. I told my bf only that we had a unappropriate conversation but I didnt tell him about the pictures.. I am too scared that it would affect our relarionship so much that he will leave me. I cannot let this happen but it is also very hard for me to keep this a secret. I am so lost and sad.. please can anyone help me resolve this issue?
@Taja751998 I'm sorry to hear that you're in such a difficult situation. It's always tough when we feel bad about something we did, and want to be truthful, but at the same time are so worried about hurting a relationship that's very important to us. Ultimately what happens will be up to you, what you feel is best, and it will have to be something you work out with your boyfriend. There are a couple different ways you might approach this, one could be doing a pro and con list: what happens if you tell him about the pictures, versus what happens if you don't. Or, you might think about either what you might advise a friend to do if they were in your situation, or even think about what you would want your boyfriend to do if the situation were reversed. You may also want to think about how you would feel in the long run, if you talk to him about the pictures or if you keep it a secret. Those are just some ideas about how you might approach the situation, but it all depends on your own feelings in the end.
@Taja751998
What you did there IS a form of cheating although not physical (as in having sex). My best guess is that in your 5 year relationship with your current boyfriend there's something that you're not satisfied in him that lead you to this. If you don't admit it, the guilt will probably keep eating you inside. If you do admit, you can only hope he will forgive you as long as you are truly sorry. Only you knows best what your boyfriend will do after that.
