Double Standards in Parenting
Everytime I ask my husband for help with our children, he throws out the "role" card. He uses him being the man of the house and the provider as an excuse for why he should do less when it comes to helping out with the kids. The extent of his parenting includes being the last resort in disciplining the kids and also being the "fun" parent who takes them out for ice cream, to pool parties or amusement parks every now and then. Most of the daily grind with the children falls on me.
Ontop of that, I am also the cook, the cleaner, nurse and ofcourse, his porn star. 🙄 I am exhausted!
I love my husband. He does handle business and treats me well, but hes a total douche when it comes to this 1 issue- the kids. I need him to change his view on our "roles". Especially now that I enrolled in school so that I could get my own career going...the roles should change. Idk that he will be able to.
@Raindancer777
Hey there, it sound like your having trouble. I definetly agree with you but also, I grew up in the position your kids are in and how the father doesn't help out with the kids in terms of studying. Of course, our circumstances are different and I dont know how old your kids are, make sure that your kids help each other out. It's kind of random but i never went out for icecream, or went to a theme park but you know, I definetly turned out a lot better because of my relationship with my siblings.
Back to the main note, you could remind your husband and have a serious talk about your kids, the responsibility, why you married, the reason your doing this, and just remind him that the effort he puts in now is going to show when your kids grow up. You can dm me if you need to talk. I'm here to listen.
