Everyone tells me she was toxic-not me

I had a thing with girl. She began to pull away. I tried asking her why and she kept saying it was none of my business. She said she was scared. She pushed me away after letting me in and getting close to me. I got mad so I pulled away too. Then, she apologized and I gave her a second chance. She went back to the way she was before. She told me we could work out. Then a little while after that, she told me this wasnt going to work out at all AND that she always felt like that. Thats gaslighting, is it not? Saying one thing, changing your mind and claiming thats what you meant the whole time. So she told me we needed space for like a week. We never had a conversation about needing space, she decided that we did. So we didnt talk for a week and she told me we could talk about things after we were done not talking. Even when that day came she pushed it aside. And then she finally told me she needed me out of her life because she didnt wanna hurt me. But she didnt answer my questions about why she kept playing me. And then? She did some really petty shit right after she told me she didnt want me to get hurt. I blew up of course. She says I didnt respect her boundaries because I kept talkabout things.
But for there to be boundaries there also has to be a conversation, right? Or was I too pushy. I admit I made mistakes. I blew up. But I admitted and apologized. She never apologized. She never wanted to talk things out. There was a vague convo. Thats it.