Help please
Hi everyone! I have a lil dilemma that I would like help with...sooo the other night I got a bit tipsy at work(I work at a bar/restaurant and I was off the clock) I only had one shot and yes it was a big shot probably equaled up to 2 or 3 shots in one cup...I told my bf I only had one wen I came home cuz I threw up and I also didnt eat that night so it made me more sick...I finally told him today how big the shot really was and now hes all mad wit me saying Im a liar and all...and keep in mind he finally admitted to me he was talking to other females while we were together last year and I always had a keen sense he was but of course he would say they were just his friends. And I have yet to really let out how I feel about him admitting he cheated. But hes upset wit me like I did the same to him...we havent talked since he got home from work. But am I in the wrong or is he for acting like its a huge ass lie that I made?
@Lolo33
It's entirely about boundaries. You said you haven't expressed to him how his cheating made you feel. He has, on the other hand, told you exactly how your lie made him feel. We don't know yet whether talking to other females even counts as cheating in his books. So unless the discussion about boundaries and comfort takes place, it's really difficult to see things from each other's perspectives.
Maybe just have the talk with him on both issues, figure out what differences of opinions are there and see how you can both work out mutually respectful boundaries that can be adhered to moving forward.
