How to forgive him for cheating...
Hi! I just need some guidance when it comes to whether or not I should stay in my current relationship and how to work out an issue that has happened. Essentially, my boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year now. 7 months ago, he went to the bar with some friends and made out with a girl there. He didn't tell me about this until a couple of weeks ago. When we started our relationship, I knew he might not have been fully ready as he had just gotten out of a long term relationship a few months before. But, I told him that I needed to fully trust him and for him not to cheat. When he told me about this a couple of weeks ago, I forgave him and did not break up with him because he has changed a lot and our feelings have developed. But, I find myself constantly thinking about it and becoming a little resentful internally. I don't know what to do and how to truly move past it. I just want to know what I can do to stop thinking about it now.
@anadaniella hi sweetie. If you saw that he changed his behavoir and he told you about that situation, maybe now he is totally into you and it will be fine. Try to have a serious conversation with him and tell him how you feel, honestly. With communication you can solve any problem. I hope that it was useful for you. Wish you the best
@anadaniella
First good sign is that he told you what happened himself. Yes, it did take a while for him to tell you but he still told you. In my opinion, it seems like he told you because he truly feels bad about cheating on you and regrets it. Second good sign is his changing feelings. He may have waited a while to tell you because of how your relationship has become stronger and his feelings for you have grown.
He may not have told you about the cheating when it happened because he was afraid of getting in trouble. As your relationship has progressed, it seems like his feelings have changed and he's more concerned about your feelings and being honest with you than protecting himself from trouble.
I'd maybe talk to him about how you feel. It's okay to still be hurt by it. Even though it happened months ago, he still broke your trust. The only way to work through it may be to just talk about it more and your lingering feelings.
How do I forgive him for cheating? He acknowledged it was horrible and says he is working to be better and I believe him but I don't that when he is feeling bad again he won't run to another girl instead of me. How I fall out of love with someone. I love him but he cheated and I don't know if I can believe his words anymore