How to trust again
My partner and I have been together for 2 years, we’ve been friends for 7. When we met we were working together and he was married, that relationship ended and we got together. As we worked together and he was my superior in the office we had to keep it quiet. I quit my job so we could have a normal relationship. I found a photo of a topless co-worker on his phone and he sent a topless photo back. When I confronted him about it he said it was a huge mistake, he feels sick about it and he will never do it again, said he’s scared of getting hurt again like his first marriage and freaked out as we have now completely intergrated our families. Something that hurts the most is... I was in the house when he received and sent the photo.. my hairbrush abs makeup are in the photo. I reacted with emotion, I knew of the girl (who is married) took a screenshot of it and sent it to her husband. I don’t know how to move on from this.. I love him so much. Any advice welcome
@Thoughtdweller I’m sorry to hear that this has happened to you. The first red flag in this was probably him leaving his marriage for you initially, as it shows he’s looking at other women while he’s in a relationship. If you’d like to stay with him, you ought to work on communication and being more open and honest with each other. It will take a lot of time to build up trust again.
Thanks for replying sunflower.. I know what you mean about the first red flag, I always told myself I wouldn’t get attached to him... but here I am. I’m really struggling with letting him back him, I hope I can one day
