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Im a narcissist n I guess I have been all my life well self diagnoses. I first herd that about 6mo ago when my fiancé Was reading the symptoms to over the phone one night at work n we had been having problems before, we I entertained the thought n look a little on my own made agreements with her to later end up breaking them. Now all this going on Im working out of state for weeks at a time. The problem being that she spending time with her cousin n friends. Now cousin is not the best choice of friend to have I was not happy about the time money n effort my Fiancé was putting in. well long story short 2yr later we are separateing as of 2 days ago. Now we have known each 16yr been sexual 13yr been in committed relationship 8yr. She has never given me a reason to not trust her. She mad this friend with a cousin ex-bf n his mom an e there home 2blocks away come to find out 8moago well she started spending a lot of time there n he are home both when I was on time off n away I didnt like it but never stop. N ya I said mean hurt full thing I at home nothing but fighting. I never believed or trust what she told me even tho I never had a reason. Now she wants to go stay with her mom in Florida for 6 months n she tells that I need to get counseling n fix myself that she dont want to have any involvement I need to do it on my own n well see what happens down the road. But she dont want any involvement in anything but to continue her bachelors degree. So now I have to feature out who going care for 2large dogs maintain the pool while Im outstate working n bill from Bank find a psychiatrist n time while I work 16-20hr days 6days a week 4-6weeks 2weeks off n be a chance man in 6mo time.
Anyone have any opinions?
@Npdnedhp911 I would just try to work on your self and get professional help but i highly dobut your a narcassit most don't realized that they are i wouldn't self diganois your self till you get proper help from a professional.
@Npdnedhp911 I know what a narcissist is, I am married to one. An alcoholic narcissist. Narcissists are extremely smart, so we have our own business and are financially stable, but the verbal/mental abuse money cannot cure. Do you say very mean things intentionally to your girl just to make her self esteem rot so you get control of her? You have her abide by your time/preferences? I had to change my whole lifestyle to accomodate my husbands 8 years ago. We are from two different cultures, he is Mexican and I am American, but of course, I had to learn to eat and cook Mexican food. Also, his business. I gave up my dream to become a makeup artist b/c he wanted me to be part of his auto shop. I know he just did that so he could watch me. If you can relate to any of these .. you are a narcissist.
@TransAm85 yes I do a lot I work out of state a lot which makes thing hard for me she has these friends she just got they are not good people criminals and drug attic‘s.
I hate it when she is hanging out with them makes me think she is cheating all the time I get so mad upset that I break things chairs punch walls have even broken my hand several times. But I never lay a hand on her I have pushed her a couple time only because I became so Furious She came at me couple times. I say mean things cut her down make her feel bad about herself thinking she would stop but it dont Work.
@Npdnedhp911 Maybe you just have anger management problems. Your anger sounds logical, but breaking things is unnecessary. Men and women communicate extremely different for some reason. You're criticizing her b/c your angry with who she is associating with? My husband criticizes me to bring my self esteem to a low so I don't feel confident enough to be without him in public. It has gotten to that point. You don't sound like an egotistical narcissist. They are also very egotistical. You didn't even go into detail what you do for a living. I think you love her and just want the best for her. You just have to work on your anger problems.
