I am lost - I can
Hello everyone, I feel so helpless! My ex broke up with me 3 months ago and it almost killed me. we were together almost 2 years. I know its not that long but he was special to me I felt so strong for him. I had long relationships before but I never felt so in love like with him. He said he needs to concentrate on himself and doesnt want any kind of relationship but he is in relationship with someone else already. When I found out it made me so sad. I think he was cheating on me and broke up with me for her. I trusted him and he lied to me :( I tried to contact him after a month but he was very distant. When he broke up with me he said he wants us to be very good friends but now? he doesnt care about me at all he has never texted me since. It hurts. Not only because I lost a guy I loved but because I was so wrong about this guy I cant believe I trusted someone and he lied to me and betrayed me. I feel lost. I cry every day, even after 3 months... i dont enjoy anything... every day is a struggle. ai am trying to change my thinking or do something that keeps me busy but nothing help. I will never want anyone else... the thought of being with another guy makes me depressed. I will never be able to trust again and find anyone i will love like i loved him.
Well, getting over a relationship may be very hard and it takes time so be patient with yourself. :) writing letters is very good and you can try many other things: travel or explore somewhere new, get in touch with family and friends, watch funny videos, pet a cat or a dog (love and affection come in many ways, not just from a boy/man).
@blueHickory43
Thank you for your reply. I have tried lot to be honest... therapy, plenty of new hobbies, i want to get a dog but not sure if my landlord will allow me to have a dog. i read, watch motivational videos and so much but nothing helps.
@Eliza0 There is nothing wrong that you still are not over him. I cried for 6 days for 3 months every single day and didnt feel good for 6 months. 2 years is alot of time to consider. I am also having a similar issue with my 2 year boyfriend, you are strong. You could stay away from him. I cannot. He cheated on me more than 7 times and im still with him. Because being lonely sucks.
You are already strong. Dont try to be back with him. He might ask one day to get back with you. But you shouldnt. You are a strong girl. And you know you will love someone else. Just because others get over faster than you doesnt mean you should too. Actually im so glad that there is someone like me who cannot be with another man because they still have feelings. This means you truely are loyal. Not like him. You have strong feelings and you care about your feelings. He doesnt care about your feelings. Otherwise he would have not cheated on you. Give yourself more time. Dont be too harsh. You too know you will get over him one day. It doesnt have to be now, nor tomorrow. I kind of feel like I shouldnt be giving you advice because me myself is still with the douchebag but, my situation is way different than yours. So, if I were you, I would take some time off, travel, do work and travel or something. Go on something very uncomfortable that you cant think about him anymore. Distract yourself.
@hardworkingJar9089 Hello, thank you so much for your reply. Its terrible :( I am sorry you are going through this as well. I wouldnt say our situation is that much different only that your bf is still with you and mine dumped me. If he wouldnt i would be still with him. some people like us just love deeply and are blind to see anything else or dont want to see. Still easier to be with that person than to be alone. He dumped me once before long time ago and came back after being with some girl who was crazy. he just cant be alone. He thought i was cheating on him and i think because of that he found someone else and then broke up with me. he hasnt texted me nothing. I think he is upset or he feels hurt. He was sure I cheated on him but I never did actualy. It hurts because I lost him not only as a partner but as a friend. One thing I know is that he will never come back... i wish he would though. but he will not. he doesnt trust me now.
You probably know you should not be with your guy either... we need to learn to love ourselfs and be happy alone. I am pretty sure i will stay single for few years maybe forever. I cant have any other man i tried it once and it was absolutely terrible! i could not repeat that! I just dont want anybody else. I am done with guys.
Hope one day you can sort out your situation and hope you wont be too hurt if anythinh bad happen. if you want to chat outside of this app i am verx happy x
Hello, i'm going throug the same thing as you, with some little differences. He didn't cheat on me and he don't have anyone, i guess. He broke up with me because we where always fighting, because he didn't had time to be with me, at least, the time I wanted to. Now I feel guilty because of that. The worst thing is he gives me only silence. When he left he didn't said anything. I called him lots of times and he never talked to me. Just one time that I called him he texted me, and the messages led me to uncertity, if he he broke up or needed some time. I stoped calling him and it's been 3 months now. He had his birthday a few days ago and after we change only 1 birthday message i send him an email, saying i want to talk to him, and explaining that i will be different and give him the time he needs. He don't answer :(
These 3 months I expected that he would talk to me, he didn't. I tryed to accept that it was over, and I still can't. I feel the same way you do, lost, depressed and I'm always thinking about him, how good man he is and that I lost him and I don't want nobody else.
@Elismay1 I am so sorry to hear that you are going through the same 😞 It hurts! so much! there is no worse pain than broken heart. I can relate as I am getting silent treatment as well as he just give a f*uck about me. Its so devastating that someone you spent so much time with... someone you loved and trusted is behaving like that. Like we would never exist. I just dont get it its so disappointing. I wish i would have some advice for you but I dont. I think just stop contacting him. there is no point doing that if he is ignoring you. stop for maybe a year and try again after long time. if you still will be interested. we need to accept that its all gone and we will never be back with them. people come and go and we have no control over it. I am just trying to get through the day somehow depressed, crying all the time, cant sleep but hope one day it will get better. I thought i will be fine after 3 months but its only getting worse. maybe it takes years to move on i dont know. life aint easy. i wish you the best! stay strong x
@Eliza0
Thank you for your words dear, all I can say is I hope time will ease the pain for you and for me. stay strong you too x
@Elismay1 thank you ❤️
@Elismay1Hello ...my case is pretty much similar to yours the only difference is that is been 8 months since that and he did used to come back to talk to me and get phsical with me at times but never came out in public ....I ended up feeling like i was being used and even today i have to face him everyday in my class and i want to slap him for making my life miserable.... but don't know what to do.
@Deepi1608 I am sorry to hear that :(
I think he was using you, the best thing you should do is don't talk to him just ignore his presence. I know it hurts but if he loved you he would'nt do that to you. I'm going to stop trying to talk to my ex. There's no point. Wish you all the best. Stay stong x
@Deepi1608 I am so sorry to hear that. I hate when guys play with our feelings! its so sad :(
@Eliza0 I've gone through exactly the same experience, i got to know the true colors of my ex after he is gone! I found out everything he said and did are just lies and that I've been living in a lie for about 2 yrs. Now i know how despicable person he is but still im not able to move on and its been 6 months. He is already married and happy. I think first thing to do is to forgive yourself! You loved truely but he proved that he doesnt deserve your true love! So its better if he is out of your life! I tell myself the same thing! What if I was married and then came to know about his manipulations and lies?! So I console myself that I've dodged a bullet and life has planned something better for me. So I just need to accept the reality and wait for a real man who is worthy of my love! I suggest you the same! Strength, Peace and Love to you!
@InfiniteThoughts2k19 I am so sorry to hear that! its exactly the same case. I am thinking if anything he said was actually true.. I am thinking if he cheated the whole time while we were together. I am thinking if he ever was serious about us two! six months is a long time.. is it not getting any better? I am worried i will not ever get over it to be honest. Betrayal hurts especially from person who you thought you are gonna stay forever. Well we were probably very blinded and we lived in a fantasy instead of a reality. I cant believe how someone can change so much or show the true face? its sad that he doesnt check how i am doing :( not a single text.. nothing. I am telling mysel it would be hell to get married with him and then he would leave me after.. Relationships are hard... i will never be able to trust anyone. I am done 😒 hope you will feel better soon. we need to love ourselves more than anything and anyone else ❤️
@Eliza0
Hello Eliza,
I'm currently going through a similar situation. My bf broke up with me and this is something he does every year same time of the year. He has never fully made it to a year and it's always the same reasone excuses and treatment. Just last week he was tlking about a future moving on building etc and just like that he left me again. This has been going on for 8 years now. I don't understand why he does it to me. I give him everything and yes in the back on my mind I have the past but he promises me always that he will give me the time I need to heal and move on from it. It hard to trust him and made things very clear to him before we tried it again he agreed and said he understood wha he did ad where I'm coming from. That he will not give up on us again and this will work. He is I. A state where he doesn't care about me at all. He acts like like I'm the one that is damaging him and yes even though I know I have some fault I. My actions and attitude I still haven't n never have given up on him especially how easily he does. I feel lonely and depressed. My body onew before me what was going to happen because I was starting to feel sick. I've tried making him understand but that's something I cant force him to do. I haven't ate in four days and ita only getting worse. I cant keep food down. I dont know how to heal. I feel alone because he seemed to always be there and promised so much to me.
@tallMango2756 Hello, I am so sorry to hear that! I feel your pain :( Its very hard. You probably knoe you should not be coming back to him again. Mine did the same. he broke up with me once before and came back and I took him back - the worst mistake EVER! if he broke up with you few times before do not come back to him. He is playing with you. if he would be serious he would not break up with you. i know its very hard you invest so much in that person and you give him everything but i realised its a mistake. they take you for granted. Effort must be equal otherwise it will never work. I learnt my lesson the hardest way but i know i would never do the same mistake again. I wish i could help you but i have no idea what to do either. I guess we just have to survive day after day some how and hope it will get better in few months or years. Also I am telling myself how he betrayed me and lied to me and that he is not the guy I thought he was. Sometimes we live in a fantasy and we don
