Im new here
im 19 years old turning 20. Seeing all my friends in love, ive always wonder where am i going wrong because they are really younger than me. All of them have bfs of 2 3 years and somehow i cant have anything like that.
Ive been abused and abandoned to the point i got trust issues. I want to get better and find love. But, how do i do that?
@impartialPine9019
Hello Pine, how close are you with your friends? I would be surprised if all of them were really happy and in functional relationships at that age. Often we just show other people the good side and not the things we are struggling with. Like many do in social media - show the happy photos and successes and don't talk about our inner struggles, fights, problems. But I don't know them and might be wrong!
Abuse and trauma does make it hard to form close connections with people. Counselling/therapy can be really helpful; you have to learn new patterns of relating to people. It can definitely be done. Find a counsellor/therapist who has experience/training in helping people with trauma/abuse.
@impartialPine9019
Also, I hear how hard it is feeling for you to feel left out of something that you want and everyone around you seems to have. 💛