I need advice
My gf and I have had misunderstandings a couple of times, she shy away from telling me when she is not comfortable about something I do despite I insist I like us to always talk. She rather will take to her WhatsApp status and talk about her personal experience in our relationship in the form of MEMES and writeups. I had threatened to end things twice since she doesn't talk but still nothing. I have to go talk to her when we go silent because she did something wrong. Two time this has happened and I feel drained like I am begging her.
I ask her what her needs are and she rarely tells me she needs money for something but I found out she is talking to other guys (who are asking her out) and asking them for money to prove that they lover her.
She answers strange calls and acts weird, I act as though I'm not concerned.
She tells me I'm too good to be true, well I have been very honest with her, never given her any reason to doubt me, I don't have and not seeing any other woman. She says I'm too good to be true.
She hasn't told any of her close friends we are dating after 5 months but those friends know that she has me who is a friend though they ask if we have something, she hasn't accepted. She says she doesn't trust them, that one of them snitched on her in the past.
I am 33 and she is 22
@brownGrain It's crucial to recognize that a 33-year-old dating a 22-year-old creates a significant power differential. With the added factor of you threatening to end the relationship if she doesn't communicate, it further exacerbates this power dynamic.
Using threats as a way to elicit communication can be coercive and manipulative. It's important to foster an environment of open dialogue, where both partners feel safe and comfortable expressing their thoughts and concerns without fear of consequences.
Okay, thanks for your comment.
I don't threaten to end the relationship, I am rather very open to her. I let her ask me anything and I make sure I ask what is going on if i sense that she isn't her normal self.
@brownGrain,
by demanding she talks to you you are only pushing her away.
Give her space and let her know you are there if she wants to talk.