I need help and advice

@SpiritTea

Hi! I’m sorry to hear that you are having a rough time. It can be very difficult to navigate relationships. It was very brave of you to reach out for help. What makes you think that you are the problem? How has your relationship changed over time?

@SpiritTea Hi there! Welcome to 7cups!

@SpiritTea Thank you for sharing, the main reason of the arguments may be communication problems. Talking things out when you guys have had time to cool down after a heated moment may help with this situation.

@SpiritTea

Hey, welcome! It sounds like you're going through a tough time, but it's great that you're reflecting on it and want to improve. Arguments happen in many relationships, and it's not always about being the "problem." Sometimes it's just about communication or different expectations. The fact that you care and want to work things out with your boyfriend is a good start. Have you been able to talk to him about how you’re feeling?

Hello @SpiritTea, 

I hope this message finds you well. I can imagine how things are difficult for you right now. It sounds like you’re going through a tough time with arguments, which makes you feel really bad, especially that you care a lot about your boyfriend.

It is normal to feel up and downs in a relationship, especially that you have been together for a while, and it seems that you want to make things better, which shows how much this relationship means to you.

Remember, it is okay to feel that way, also take your time to reflect on how you are feeling. You are doing your best, and that’s the most important thing. Take care of yourself, and please feel free to reach out for me, if you need someone to listen to you. I’m here for you.