Is it a bad idea to date him??
Hi All, I met this guy through a friend and got on very well with him. Over time weve been hanging out more and there is definitely a connection there. Hes super caring, makes me laugh, really easy to talk to and open up to and he mellows me out too which are all the things I need and want in a guy. I know he likes me and Im struggling with accepting liking him... because he deals drugs! Im nervous what me dating him will mean for my life... Any thoughts or advice on what I should do?
@Monkifish5081 Hey :) He sounds like a pretty nice guy but I would recommend that you find a time to sit down and have a talk with him to address your concerns. It is always good to be completely honest with him and maybe you two can reach an agreement/compromise where you can feel more comfortable before taking the next step of your relationship. It is also good to keep in mind that if you feel as if you are going against your moral beliefs at any point in your life, just take things slow, discuss the problem with somebody you can trust to figure out your next move. All the best x
@HurricaneAlexa Thanks so much for your advice, its really good. I guess theres a couple of specific things Im worried about 1) I dont really care that he deals, is this a bad reflection on me? 2) Im worried thag because he deals that if any trouble comes his way, it will also come my way too and 3) if I bring this up with him, Im worried hell think Im judging him and giving him the ultimatum of not dealing if he wants to be with me (I dont want to change anyone if they dont want to change). Im nervous because I can see him being really good for me but his side job is a big concern.
@Monkifish5081 Just glad that I could help a little :) Personally, I don't believe in a black and white, 100% good or bad, when it comes to your own personal reflection, because what you think is okay may or may not be approved my others. However, your second point does raise a good point, and I am also afraid that you might run into trouble that might affect your future/career. I do understand your third point, but in my opinion, he must have known that what he is doing is illegal and if he really loves you and wants to be with you, he would care about your safety/future and hopefully would change for the better. The only way to know what he thinks is to talk to him and then decide if you want to take the risk. A guy who makes you happy can offer you happiness and make you feel that you are at the top of the world and you just don't want to lose him at all, but at the end, if you are still in doubt after talking with him, just remember there are plenty of people out there, it just takes time to find another good guy who prioritse you and your opinions over his side job. x
