My girlfriend has a crush on someone else?
Last night I found out that my girlfriend has a crush on another girl. I confronted her and things got a bit heated because I invaded her privacy by going through her messages (complete accident btw) she said that it's a small crush and it's not romantic, however that crush has been there for over 6 months and I find that kind of crazy. I did research and found that having crushes in relationships is normal and to be distinct between a small crush and real sacrificial love. Obviously it's a human reaction but for some reason it still makes me feel a bit uncomfortable and has brought my self esteem down to literally nothing
Hey @Faultylover,
It seems like doing the research and finding out it was normal didn't make you feel any better. It's completely normal to feel this way especially if you are not experiencing these emotions towards anyone else the way she is. Just remember that attraction and love are two different things. For most people, being attracted to someone does not change even if you are involved in a relationship with someone else. You can find someone attractive, but be completely happy in the relationship you are in. Love, on the other hand, is much more complicated. You should not feel more love for someone else romantically than the love you feel towards your partner. If you feel like your girlfriend's crush is getting in the way of your relationship, you should talk to her. It's okay to not be comfortable with something just because the internet normalizes it. If you need anything else, don't hesitate to private message me <3