Need to talk to someone
I’m 25 and my boyfriend is 33 we’ve been together going on 4 years now I love and care about him so much and he knows this but I don’t feel the same from him we have two very different love languages and he struggles expressing his feelings as freely as I do a few days ago in one of our more serious talks I expressed to him how I feel like I’m never enough for him but he just always say I’m projecting my own negative thoughts about myself on to him within that talk he said some hurtful things and acknowledge he was being an ass we ended everything on a better note but I can’t stop thinking about what he said I feel judged by him and like I’m not doing enough with my life but I’m stuck feeling like no matter what I do will be enough for him I’ll always fall short I know this is probably all over the place but I just needed to get these thoughts out and hopefully have someone else’s prospective on the matter
Hi tavia, I’m sorry you’re feeling this way.. I understand where you are coming from (I’m 26 and my partner is 36). Writing out how you feel and getting it off your chest can be such a relief. Firstly, you are more than enough for him or anyone, please remember that. We all can/have say hurtful things in the heat of the moment. Sometimes the communication walls break down and we have to find the crack that caused it. I know in my experience, I was feeling similar. Through some hard self reflection I discovered I felt like that because I didn’t like myself, and I’m still working on it.. but it caused doubt in my relationship and the feeling of ‘not being good enough’ (I’m not saying that your relationship with yourself is the same, just wanted to say in case it’s something to think about) Has his behaviour changed since he apologised? Do you feel you’ll be able to ‘forgive and forget’? Love can be hard work, but the payoff is bloody beautiful. Trust your heart. I’m here for you.. 💜
You don’t know how much I appreciate you reaching out to me thank you your response has been helpful I have to say you are completely right and I know some of my upset is my own fault cause I do struggle with loving/ liking myself I just want his validation and want to feel wanted but I could be relying on that in an unhealthy way telling myself that’ll fix my problems but I really need to work on myself I don’t know I’m anxious and overwhelmed
As for his behavior I feel like he has gone back to being is normal self but I just still feel some judgement coming from him but I don’t know if I’m just convincing myself of that
