Scared to be in a relationship/have sex
I have only been in 1 real relationship and i ended it. SInce then ive just made out with guys but nothing serious. I lost my virginity not too long ago and havent had sex since, I think im scared to be in a relationship and scared to have sex. Maybe im just uncomfortable with sex? I just wanted other peoples opinions because im not sure if this is normal or not.
Sex is great and sex is weird and fun and sticky and relaxing and gross.... Sex is different for all of us. Same with relationships. Some want it more, some don't need it at all. There is nothing wrong with not being ready for relationships or sex. Don't rush or force yourself into either. It does take trust to let someone into your heart. It's easy to say don't stress but sometimes hard to do. Take time to find yourself, and find what you need, and most importantly what you are comfortable with. And I'll tell you what I taught my daughter. Anyone who cares for you will respect your boundaries, and since you care for them, you would respect theirs, too. It's how trust and love will come and grow. Rome wasn't built in a day.
@PurpleForest Great post! Your daughter is lucky to have had such great advice.
@affableTangerine6360 seems normal to me! You're new to the sex scene, it's natural for you to feel a bit uneasy or scared. You mentioned that you lost your virginity recently, were you in a relationship with that person? I think it's important to make sure that whatever you choose to do that you are comfortable doing it and that the person you are doing it with understands where you are coming from and respects that. Hope this helps. If you would like to chat in more detail, feel free to message me directly. Take care. xo
