They ghosted me then asked to talk
Hi,
I am in need of advice please. I really dont know how to deal with this:
My ex who I still care about has ghosted me for 6 months now. I tried to reach out but realised I was blocked on every form of contact.
I had a missed call from them a few days ago, I feel I need to express how they hurt me but dont want them to disappear again. How could I apporah this? I want to repair and connect, not argue and create even more distance.....I also want to ask them not to disappear again as it is really hurtful.
@IntrovertedOldSoul Okay, person, this ex of yours ghosted you for about 6 months. So.... that means he/she wasn't contacting you for a while, right? Now, think for yourself is there is any reason he/she wasn't in a position to contact for his safety or yours or any one else's. If you cannot, I think, you know he/she meant to do so. So, you have no reason to try and make things alright with him or.... be nice about it if you don't want to. But you should talk to him/her about It, regardless the consequences because you never know how many times it is going to happen if you don't confront it.
So, make it clear to him/her.
But do not worry if he/she walks out of your life again because it is okay for anyone to leave. It is hard, sure. But you do not need them. You do not need anyone but yourself. And Sure, maybe not talking about it makes you feel secure but what's the guarantee he/she won't leave if you don't say a word about his/her absence? Nevertheless, you just want him/her but don't need them. Just let it go. Sure, it is painful but it would be toxic for you to obsess about them if they are just going to leave. Hell, it's toxic to obsess about anything doesn't matter they stay or leave.
@LScarlet Thank you.
I appreciate your response. It makes sense to me.
@IntrovertedOldSoul It's a pleasure. 😁😄