Tired of boyfriend flaking
Boyfriend flakes all the time, or just won't make plans. IM trying really hard to be understanding because a lot has to do with his anxiety. But we've been dating 6 months and it's so frustrating. He gets a little defensive when I try to bring it up, and if I ask to do something he feels pressured a lot. He's aware of it but doesn't really do much about it.
It's hard not to feel rejected and take it personally, and im always the one asking to get together and getting shot down or told yes but then I get cancelled on. I've tried not requesting plans as often and even being busy without him.
@Serendipitycmt give it time, and give him space. Then you know what to do,
@Serendipitycmt
I am sure that it is very hard not to take it personally, and it sounds like a part of you understands that it is part of his anxiety. At the same time I am sure you would like him to work on it so you could have the type of relationship that you are looking for. It sounds like you are "stuck between a rock and a hard spot." At some point in time he will either have to work on it or you will have to accept what is or move on.
@Serendipitycmt Giving him Time and Space is probably a good idea. Make sure to take care of yourself and find ways to make yourself happy independently of him. If he wants to see you and spend time with you he can plan something. Even if you plan something and he cancels, then once you have your own ways of being happy and busy it wont hurt as much. And perhaps with time he realised how much he wants and misses you. Let him come to you :) If he doesnt, its his loss
