Uncertain if this is the right relationship
My boyfriend says mean things when we fight.
He would use the F word and say what I’m saying is bullshit.
although he didn’t curse directly at me, it’s shocking to me that he would use such derogatory words to describe what I’m saying or the situation.
I’ve asked him not to and he tries but it comes out once in a while. And that really hurts my feeling and trust in him.
@niceDay3166
I'm sorry to hear that your boyfriend is using such language with you. Seeing that you have asked him not to and when it does happen, it hurts and it's okay to feel that way about it. Your feelings are just as important in this relationship as his.
Dear @niceDay3166, thank you for sharing your feelings and thoughts with us. 🌺
I feel you and how these behaviors can be hurtful for you, I grew up in an environment in which these sort of language was never used, once I got to my first job I had to face such treatment as some categorized as "normal" language when angry or upset at workplace and I would often feel hurt and intimitated by it even though it wasn't directed to me.
I also want to congratulate on having the courage to talk openly about the situation as it means he as well as you is open to try and put in an effort to make things better in the relationship.
On that account I would suggest perhaps try to take time out when in the middle of a fight, to not sort out the issue right away when you're both angry and led by the negative emotion itself that perhaps would complicate self control but instead to try and solve the issue once you are both calm and to talk but more importantly to listen attentively to one another.
I hope this will help you and that you'll bloom out of stronger as an orchid that grows yet more beautiful when in the face of hardships. 🌺❤️
