Unsolved problem with a friend after 4 months AKA Dear Abby.
Hello~. (Insert waving gif)
Well, as I said in the title, I had a problem with a friend 4 months ago. It all begun when I started to help him with his problems, he has low self-esteem, what I was trying to do is make him be a little more open with his emotions and at talking, as he can do it if he put himself into it.
We were mostly fine, I think, we had some smaller problems here and there but we were able to carry on together. But one day he wasn't really sure to keep the help up, as those problems were more common that I would like to admit, and he only wanted to not hurt each other in mine try to help him because of those problems.
Because of that I said things I shouldn't, I let my desires to help him and worries blind my judment, big mistake. So we did stop talking, I tried to talk with him after that some occasions apologizing myself. In one of those times he told me something important, that a song I was sending to him lost any kind of meaning after I started to send it to other people. The lyrics are those:
To illustrate, while describing this dream,
Now and forever, even in this moment, I am lost and confused in delusion.
I wanna be with you always, always.
Keep me beside you, Re;Birth.
You gave me support, right?
Right here, it's your call,
Your call, never give up.
I will always be supporting you, trust in your wings.
My heart will always be with you, gaze to the future.
Never give up, hidden within is your strength, if you have faith.
Never give up, every day, let's brighten this world.
About that time, the star I searched for was in this place.
Now and forever, unchanging, it keeps shining.
I wanna be with you always, always
Closer to you than anyone else, Re;Birth
Because you kept a close eye on me,
I can fly, it's your call,
Your call, never give up.
I will always be supporting you, aim for that sky.
My heart will always be with you, spread out both your hands.
Never give up, so, if you are by my side, we can become strong.
You're not alone! Every day, we found that hope.
Forever...
Will you keep my heart? Forever!
I will always be supporting you, trust in your wings.
My heart will always be with you, I will always be...
I will always be supporting you, trust in your wings.
My heart will always be with you, gaze to the future.
Never give up, hidden within is your strength, if you have faith.
Never give up, every day, let's brighten this world.
To explain this, after sometime talking he became very important to me, so sending that song reflect somethings I wanted to tell him. But at some point I started to send it to other friends because I wanted the same for them. It was impactful when I see he didn't cared anymore as it was important for me.
Now, after 3 months I tried to talk with him again to solve our situation, he told me that we probably would talk after a monday because he had some exams that day. So after that day I wrote 2 messages asking if he really wanted to talk about it, but he never answered.
I'm waiting to talk with a mutual we have to end the friendship, but is this really something I should do?
I already talked with the second mutual friend and he told me that he would be with me and have he support no matter what decision I make.
This situation is mostly my fault, and maybe I'm not a good friend for him. I just want to make the best decision for he, I and everyone around us.
@AlexSoloVaAlFuturo
I am sorry you are struggling with this alex. It can be heartbreaking to think you've lost a friend. You have done everything you can do so it is up to him to reply. Maybe give him some space and he will heal what wounds he has and return to the friendship.
I wish the best fore you alex and hope everything turns out ok.
@AlexSoloVaAlFuturo
I am sorry you are struggling with this alex. It can be heartbreaking to think you've lost a friend. You have done everything you can do so it is up to him to reply. Maybe give him some space and he will heal what wounds he has and return to the friendship.
I wish the best fore you alex and hope everything turns out ok.
@energeticCircle9867
You answered two times, do you love me that much, Energy? Tee hee~ JK
Thanks, but don't worry about it, I have many things to think at the moment, I just don't want to leave this problem unsolved. It would be better for everyone. Maybe, maybe not; there still too much for us to learn, I don't really see somethig from his side after all this time.
Thanks, tee hee hee~ ☆.
Alex, sometimes it's better to just let things be, let people go, don't fight for closure, don't ask for explanations, don't chase the answers, and don't expect people to know where you are coming from. I understand where you are coming from and what I posted came as advice to me. It's helped me and hope it might help you also....Take care my friend <3
Posting my probably last message to my friend to get opinions, here it is:
@"name", my lovely waifu
First before everything, I want to say thank you. Thank you for let me met you, I am extremely grateful for have been able to met such wonderful person as you are, thank you so much.
Second, there are a lot of thing I want to tell you, thousands and thousands of things. But what I'll tell you is that I want to be with you, and I want you to be with me and to keep doing all the good things we has done in the past together again. I care about you and still love you regarless of the mistakes we have done in the past. In my birthday, my wish when I was blowing the candle was to be with you again. And if I'm honest, if any of us were a girl I would already tried to start a relationship with you. I really, really miss you, a lot.
But I respect your decision for choosing to step out, it was the correct one. And of course I respect your beliefs, I never wanted you to change, you the beautiful the way you are and I wouldn't love this much if you weren't being who you are. It's ok that you don't longer care about your "Waifu" nickname and that the song has loss any kind of meaning when I started to send it to other people that I love, you have your reasons and conviction that you believe and that's totally fine.
I know that this is mostly my fault, I let my worries and wishes blind my judment, a big mistake that I want sincerely apologize to you, I'm so sorry for all of this to happen. I know that Thespeedforce21 said that I'm kinda blowing this thing a bit out of proportion, and that's maybe true; before I only had a thought, but now I can clearly see that I inherited some things of my mother's minor social anxiety, which also go by the hand of me asking unnecessary, obvious things, so tee hee hee~ ☆. Me cago en todo! Me cago en todo lo cagable! Well, everyone knows what this mean, time to go full carnage savage training arc mode.
To end, I want you to know that because of this I have become much more wiser and stronger after a long time thinking regarding this and us, I'm eternally grateful with you for let me reach this way of thinking and vision. I really want to be with you, but I respect your decision as well, if you don't answer to this then I get the message that I should simply give up and stop trying to approach you in any kind of way or that there is no possible way to keep being like before even if we are together because of the things that happened, it's perfectly fine and understandable if you want that.
So, keep moving forward and stay truth to who you really are, because I know who you are and what you are able to do. I will always keep loving, beliving and cheering for you no matter what.
Also, I have this gift for you, I have others but maybe I will never be able to give them to you, so here it is one.
Thank you for sharing this