What should I do?
Around three years ago, I met a guy we will call Justin. He was great, I fell for him before ever dating him ,and we talked almost a year without actually being in a relationship .Then one day he's suddenly in a relationship with someone else, cuts me out completely. I was devastated. He stayed in my heart the next two years, despite my best efforts to get him out. Then this summer, he messaged me to vent about his girlfriend who I'll call Abigail. She'd been a little too friendly with guys, hiding stuff, getting mad at him. Then they made up and we sort of drifted apart for a couple of months and I thought "oh well whatever" until he messaged me back in October to boohoo some more. She'd been giving him the silent treatment for a week, openly flirting with other guys where they work, etc. A couple weeks after that, she told him it was over and she'd found someone else. I was there for him to lean on while he was upset about all this. He was doing ok .And if day he came to visit and suddenly was acting like I was more than a friend. We've spent the last month in a shor of almost relationship where I fell for him HARD and he said he loved me .Now his ex is trying to come back into the picture, and he's on the fence about it. Said he needs to pray on it. I don't know what to do. I'm supposed to go to his house for the weekend and have him at home for Christmas, but I don't know if I should if he doesn't know if he wants me .I'm so confused ,please help!
@orangeBalloon176
First, I'm sorry you're going through this especially during Christmas. You've been a good friend to Justin and he's obviously very special to you. But he was in a relationship for more than two years and when that relationship ended, he didn't really get a chance to move on from his ex before he started dating you. I know it's not easy to hear because you've been hoping to be with Justin for three years now. But he is probably also very confused about still having feelings for his ex and not wanting to hurt you.
Justin needs time to figure out what he wants. Maybe he'll decide you're better for him. Maybe he'll give Abigail another chance. But it's his decision. I know your heart is most likely set on him for now and you just finally got your chance to be with him and it feels like it's so unfair that Abigail is taking him away from you. You probably feel like Justin deserves better. So why can't you say to yourself that you deserve better? Don't you deserve someone who loves you enough to know they want to be with you? Don't you deserve to be happy with someone who wants more from you than just a shoulder to cry on? Maybe Justin will pick Abigail and it will finally be what it takes to get him out of your heart for good so that you can make room for the right guy. I hope that, whatever he decides, you realize you have so much to give and should be with someone who's willing to give as much as you do. Take care!