Work/relationship conflict
So I recently moved states for approximately 3 months for a work opportunity. Before applying for the job, my girlfriend gave me the go-ahead because I asked her permission. Now that I am gone, she is really depressed, feels abandoned and we can't hardly talk without a fight and hanging up. She says she didn't want me to go but she wasn't going to tell me that because she didn't want to hold me back. Idk what to do.
@inventiveTriangle1534
Wow, that's really tough!
How does she feel about moving to your state?
He just said how she feels :))))
Hi! I have to say from the beginning I am not an expert but for example I’m in a long distance relationship from de 3rd month of our relationship. From a women’s perspective I am telling you...it’s really hard. Also you have to keep in mind that some people are stronger than others. Anyway... I used to fight ALL THE TIME with my boyfriend but I realized I wasn’t fighting because I was actually mad at him going there but because I was scared, alone, felt left out, because I missed him more and more and I was not talking and I was bottling these up because I knew as your gf said that I cannot hold hi back. I was in a constant bad mood and irritation from those emotions and affected the relationship and than I began to make me feel more and more bad ana guilty. Try to be there for her. It’s harder for some ppl than others. Write her cute massages, send her something sweet to make her feel special ( the small things really matter). Before y’all fight or when you can tell that she is in a fight with herself or she is angry or nervous try to be the calm one and talk to her. If she hangs up call her, if she doesn’t answer text her. I know it’s a lot and it can be consuming in the beginning but I’m telling you if you love her and you want this relationship to work you have to do A LOT of work. You’ll soon see changes in your relationship. If you don’t try to show your gf or tell her what you did for the relationship but without sounding like: “haha i did this and that and you didi NOTHING and still complain and you not right”. Hive her time, give yourself time and please be patient with each other.
