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i hurt him. any advice needed please :)

User Profile: smolsmol
smolsmol May 2nd, 2021

i met this guy after being in a really bad toxic relationship for years, my toxic relationship affected me so much and i got with this new guy in a month after me and my ex broke up, so i never really had time to heal or learn or anything, and i carried many toxic traits from my past relationship that hurt my current partner so much, and i did a lot of stuff that hurt him but he always gave me new chances, all the time. he gave me 3+ chances and i managed to ruin them all and he was done. now he asked for space to heal from the stuff that i did and says he doesn’t know if this space will fix anything but he’s trying, and he says the space might go on for a month or more, i’m scared that the space doesn’t heal him and that he decides to move on afterwards. he promised me he won’t talk to any new girl/flirt or anything and that he wants us to focus on ourselves and that if it doesn’t work after this space then it might work one day in the future. regardless i’m terrified he decides to move on later and realizes that he’s at peace without me, i did change a long time ago but he’s still holding onto mistakes from the past that i did. i really miss him and i don’t wanna lose him, i don’t know what to do...

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User Profile: Whimsical08
Whimsical08 May 4th, 2021

If he is still holding on to your past mistakes, he has not forgiven you. He probably resents you for hurting him. It is not right for him to hold your past against you. If he can't get past what you have done to him then the relationship will continue to hurt. You've done your due diligence and apologized. There is nothing else. Understand that you are human and you make mistakes. Also respect yourself enough to know that it wouldn't be right to constantly beg for someone to be in your life.