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User Profile: Sh0rrrtty
Sh0rrrtty May 8th, 2020

So my boyfriend never tells me what I do that gets him upset and he tells me not to worry about it but I can tell it bothers him sometimes, I don't like doing things that make him upset but if he don't tell me what... how am I supposed to know he's upset with my actions? I know I'm a friendly person but I've always been like that and when I'm talking to a guy I always make sure that they know I have a boyfriend. It makes me feel sad that he won't communicate with me about that.

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User Profile: originalBeauty9103
originalBeauty9103 May 9th, 2020

@Sh0rrrtty

It sounds like that he is giving you the silent treatment. The silent treatment is used when it is in terms of stonewalling, meaning delaying and ignoring the other person to avoid answering questions. Since you have asked him why is he upset, it is his turn to answer the questions. What he is showing you is unhealthy and it is not communicative at all. Now, he may be cooling off and trying to find a proper way to answer your questions without saying something to hurt your feelings and avoid arguments. What you may need to do is give him breathing room to relax and calm his nerves before asking him that same question. Because if you continuously ask him again, it will erupt in your face when you are pressuring him questions constantly and you have not let him calm down first. So be very careful of how many times that you ask him questions.

I give you props to you for respecting your relationship with him because you told guys that you have a boyfriend. And that is something that he should not be mad about. He may have some insecurities and jealousy within himself that may be bothering him because if you have all these guys are trying to holler at you and being too friendly, he may feel that he's not good enough for your attention of how those guys pay attention to you. I could be wrong but that is my opinion.

So just give him time. I do not think the reason that he is upset has nothing to do with you at all. If so, apologize for your actions and ask him what can you two do to make it better. And also, stop thinking about if it has something to do with you. A woman's worth does not rely on the attitude of a man. If he is insecure, it has nothing to do with you. I am sure that you are gorgeous and beautiful woman and he should be very lucky to have you in his life.

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User Profile: Sh0rrrtty
Sh0rrrtty OP May 9th, 2020

@originalBeauty9103

Thank you so much, and maybe your right he is trying to tell me when he's calm because he has never disrespected me before and he's a sweet person so I should just give him time to open up to me .

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