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Still single and have no experiences

User Profile: lululujojo123
lululujojo123 March 3rd, 2021

I am 24 and still on the level of an 13 year old kid. I have nearly no experiences and some stupid and disgusting fantasies. Therefore no girl would ever like to have a relationship with me. I really don't know how to deal with that eternal lonelyness. My life feels so useless. I am not really able to motivate me any more.

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User Profile: h3st1a
h3st1a March 4th, 2021

Hey, I just wanted to say that there’s no ‘right time’ you have to get experience by. Society often pushes on us this idea that we have to have had sexual and romantic experiences at a young age, but in reality this is often not reasonable for many people. There’s no rush to have these experiences, they’re still completely valid whether at 18 or 88. Also, you can’t know that no girl would want to date you. It can feel that way when you’re frustrated by how your love life has gone so far and your self esteem is low as a result, but the chances are there are many people out there who are willing to form a connection with you and be in a relationship, it’s just a matter of not giving up hope and maybe trying out new ways to find people with similar interests

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User Profile: lululujojo123
lululujojo123 OP March 4th, 2021

I am simply a little scared. My fantasies are not "usual". Yes they are not completely crazy but a little disgusting. And I am scared, that they'll stay forever. Because I don't think, that experimenting and trying out new things in older ages is a common thing.

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User Profile: sally2345986
sally2345986 March 4th, 2021

@lululujojo123 That seems hard I am sorry have you tried to talk to a counselor or a mental health professional? They can give you coping skills I use CBT worksheets for anxiety oh my goodness it does wonders for me. I also come on here a lot and talk to people they seem to understand, but I could suggest you could try bumble they got pretty fairly decent attractive-looking men and women on their ok cupid were sorta decent too. I wish you nothing but the best and there really isn't a set age to start dating I started dating at age 16 but I was still quite immature back then it's all about trial and Error you just have to see what works for you I know its hard being single but I think you will find someone when your not looking or when it just clicks, I hope I was some help to you keep reaching out for support All the best.

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User Profile: lululujojo123
lululujojo123 OP March 4th, 2021

Unfortunately it's pretty difficult for me to find a mental health professional in my area. There are so much person out there searching for help. So much. And moreover I don't have much of choice regarding the time spans. 😥

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User Profile: sally2345986
sally2345986 March 4th, 2021

@lululujojo123 yeah that's tough I recommend maybe trying the Therapist on here but its expensive

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