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How do i like start communicating without getting mad because i don’t know hot to express myself? The 2 times i tried they both failed and i never tried again. now that i have a bf i want to keep him at least as long as i can. and he seems like the type to understand but if i mess up i don’t wanna hurt him or have him overthink anything. i don’t wanna lose him just because i try something im not good at. and i don’t wanna lose him after trying to express how i feel.
@DOOFUS308
Hello, the best method I know for non violent conmunication is explained in this book: https://www.amazon.com/Nonviolent-Communication-Language-Life-Changing-Relationships/dp/189200528X
And there are also seminars and courses in a lot of countries, you can search for training or just see some videos to see how it works: https://www.cnvc.org/
Active listening also helps, and 7 cups is a great place to learn and practice active listening. Non directive couching and psicology will be of help too.
Those are about learning. Other aproaches may be working on yourself so you feel more secure, happy and can ask for your needs in a more calm way. Some of those "inner" ways may be mindfullnes, selfcare, learning about boundaries (there is a very good boundaries course in 7 cups), breathing...
So the good news it that there are so many known ways to archive what you want, since conmunication is so important for everybody. The bad news is that its not easy, you will probably have to change yourself and the way you see others too.
I hope you find your way.
Hugs. 😊