I don’t get it
So i’m always nice on here today i lashed out at everyone’s cause i was frustrated at my situation and loneliness not anyone on here instead of everyone understanding i had people taking things literally then keep on asking how i am when i already said. it just made things worse and now people are probably gonna look at me insane like my dad does story of my life. I’ll just bottle up my emotions from now on. Even one of the mods joined in too, it’s not a nice experience at all. I love 7cups most of the time it is supportive but after that situation today i think i’m considering taking a break again despite this being the only place i can cope.
@nessdamess
HI, It's ok to vent some times on 7cups, we are all mostly understanding and if you crossed any lines you're forgiven 😊
No worries - What was it that was bugging you so much? Tag me anytime
Blessings,, Day
@juliak1968 narcisstic dad, personal issues (mental health possibly neurodivergency), trying to become independent, young carer/helping family a lot whislt dad works and pays bills despite wanting a job myself and thank you.
@nessdamess
Hi,
I call that juggling! I remember (all to well) the struggles I had when I was your age (I think), (I'm 60 now). I didn't know my mom was a narcissist until I was about 55 years old, she controlled all of us kids and all the people around her for most of my life. It's likely why I married a narcissist who further damaged me and my ways of thinking and why I became a people-pleaser (My therapist told me that). I suffered a lot and didn't even know I was suffering. You are far ahead of the game because you know what you're dealing with right out of the gate and you can get helped now to stand up for yourself and how to advocate for yourself. It's not to far off from when you help others, but we need to learn to care for ourselves with that kind of caring as to we would go to great lengths to help others so help ourselves! I had to learn and am still learning to cut through the BS others are trying to sell us as far as they try to control us through words and actions. I can tell you care a lot about your families well being, but remember that you need to self-discover yourself. I ask myself questions and answer them openly and honestly then I know what to do for me. Tag me anytime,
I have a lot of stories I could tell you and you'll soon realize we give the best advice so when we realize that, we can guide ourselves!!~ But in the mean time find a therapist you adore and trust them to guide you until you figure it out. It may seem out of reach, but it's an outlook, and a perception, more than anything else and learning what make yourselve tick is key.
Blessings, Day
You're welcome :-)
