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Boost Self-Esteem Month: Looking Inward & Breaking the Comparison Trap
by Heather225
Last post
 September 4th
...See more Hello, lovelies, and happy Boost Self-Esteem Month! While we spend so much of this month talking about how we connect with others—our friends, our chosen family, our loved ones—there is one vital connection that lays the foundation for all the rest: our connection with ourselves. In today’s hyper-connected world, it's easy to accidentally outsource our self-worth. We measure our value in views/likes/shares i.e. the fleeting validation of social media. We scroll through our feeds, comparing our real-life behind-the-scenes to everyone else’s carefully filtered highlight reels. It is an exhausting habit and a fast track to feeling less than. And it's unfair! But here is the truth: Your worth is inherent. It does not fluctuate based on an algorithm or someone else's approval. This February, as part of Boost Self-Esteem Month, it's the opportune time to challenge ourselves to break the external validation habit. We are practicing the art of logging off, looking inward, and finding acceptance from within. Cultivating genuine self-esteem isn't about being perfect; it's about honoring your whole, authentic self without needing an audience to applaud it. Reflection Questions To help us shift our focus inward, take a moment to ponder these questions. We'd love for you to share your thoughts in the replies below! * If social media disappeared tomorrow and no one could ever see your accomplishments, appearance, or milestones... what internal quality would you value most about yourself? * What is one "highlight reel" trap you frequently fall into when scrolling, and what is a grounding, real-life truth you can tell yourself to escape it? ✋ The Inward Connection Pledge Awareness is the first step, but action is the second! We invite you to join us in making a gentle promise to yourself this month. Copy and paste the pledge below into your reply, filling in the blank with whatever works best for you! I pledge to recognize when the comparison trap is hurting my self-esteem. When I catch myself seeking external validation online, I commit to logging off and doing [insert one small act of self-care/self-love] to reconnect with my true self. Signed (with love + your name) ------------------------- I can't wait to read your reflections and see your pledges below! Remember: You are worthy of love, especially your own.  ------------------------- This post brought to you by February theme: The Heart of Connection [https://www.7cups.com/forum/projectsandevents/CommunityActivitiesEvents_1908/7CupsinFebruaryTheHeartofConnection_374480/]
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10 Day Self-Esteem Exploration Event
by SoulfullyAButterfly
Last post
 February 23rd, 2024
...See more Hi everyone, We are excited to announce the "10 Day Self-Esteem Exploration Event", which is kicking off on Monday, the 19th of February, as part of the International Boost Self-Esteem Month.  For ten days, we will explore self-esteem as a community. There will be daily prompts focusing on the different aspects of self-esteem, encouraging you to share your personal stories, insights, and experiences while learning new techniques and tips from our community. The event is designed to help us all understand the importance of self-esteem, boost our confidence, appreciate our worth, and inspire each other in the process. Are you ready to explore, learn, participate and grow on this self-esteem journey? If so, save the dates and meet us in the Special Events group support room.  Event Details - open to both adult listeners and members: Adults Location: Special Events Room Time: Open 24/7 between 19 Feb - 28 Feb. You can check-in at any time! To show interest in this event and be informed of future events, please fill out this form. [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe31pGvZDW8_aa8Cb8ywz4lOCpy4lkS5kekzsFXILwv3QQSjw/viewform]
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Vent art I drew recently.
by Twizzly
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 12 hours ago
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why do I keep falling asleep after 10 pm
by Twizzly
Last post
 3 days ago
...See more I hate myself why can't I talk to my bestest bestfriend for more than 3 hours this is not what I planned for. maybe I should plan drawing a profile picture at 10 pm I keep hating myself just because I fall asleep so easily 🫩
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I hate myself.
by avatried
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 Sunday
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Self esteem 😝
by cheerfulKiwi1776
Last post
 Saturday
...See more You know how hard it is to have self esteem? It is incredibly hard and difficult . Self-esteem is your overall sense of personal worth and value—essentially, how much you appreciate and like yourself regardless of external circumstances. It acts as an internal compass, shaping how you navigate challenges, handle criticism, and form relationships. When you have healthy self-esteem, you recognize your inherent value and strengths while acknowledging your flaws without harsh self-judgment, giving you the resilience to recover from setbacks and pursue goals with confidence. Building self-esteem involves shifting how you relate to yourself on a daily basis. Start by replacing harsh self-criticism with self-compassion—treating yourself with the same patience and understanding you would offer a good friend when things go wrong. Setting small, realistic goals and celebrating incremental wins helps build a genuine track record of competence, which naturally strengthens your self-trust. Additionally, practicing mindfulness allows you to catch negative self-talk before it takes hold, while establishing healthy boundaries protects your time and energy, reinforcing the belief that your needs and feelings matter. Some self esteem affirmations you can use: Self-Acceptance & Worth * ​I am worthy of love, respect, and success exactly as I am right now. * ​My worth is defined by who I am, not by my productivity or external approval. * ​I embrace my flaws and view mistakes as opportunities to learn, not as failures. ​Inner Strength & Confidence * ​I trust myself to handle whatever challenges come my way. * ​I have unique talents, insights, and strengths that bring value to the world. * ​My voice matters, and I have the right to express my needs and feelings clearly. ​Growth & Self-Compassion * ​I talk to myself with kindness, patience, and understanding. * ​I let go of the need to be perfect and give myself grace as I grow. * ​I am allowed to set boundaries that protect my peace and well-being. To make them stick, pick two or three that resonate most with you and repeat them aloud in the morning, or write them down daily. * What do you think is your self esteem now on a scale from 0 to 10 with 0 being the worst and 10 being the best?  * If you struggle with self esteem what do you think would help you improve it? * If you have a great self esteem share some tips on how others could boost it too. Please make sure to answer to other people's comments as well. We all are here to help one another. Communicate with each other and support one another. 🤍
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self esteem
by HealerTyric94
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 Friday
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Feeling Ugly - Body Dismorphia
by darklord47
Last post
 September 14th
...See more Is this a good place for this topic? I'm looking for coping advice on this issue. I've lost a lot of weight to the point I even made national news last year. Yet all I see in the mirror is things I cannot change.
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Idk how to feel
by Izzyiseepy
Last post
 September 14th
...See more I'm trying to accept this version of myself because I'm really tired of fighting to go back to a version of me that was happy. This new version is negative, a lot more isolated and I don't want to hurt people. My friends know me to be the opposite (extroverted etc) but that's not me, anymore. I'm tired of having to socially mask myself in public but if I don't, I think I would lose all my friends with my negativity. Anyone here struggling with something, I really need to know how to move forward, now that I know I'm somewhat of a negative and pessimistic person.
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Comparison and Self-worth
by GoldenRetriever21
Last post
 September 11th
...See more Hi everyone, Not sure where to post this, so I guess I'll do it here. I graduated college last year, and I have been struggling with finding purpose and with my self-worth. I have many interests, and I am great at many of them, but I do not like my career and the pay is not good. I'm trying to pivot careers, but it is a complicated process. I also don't live in the US, but all my friends do, so seeing them succeed makes me happy but also a little jealous thinking that it could have been me, living the life I want to live. I guess all of this impacts how I feel about myself, feeling like I could be doing more, but the circumstances do not allow me to.
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The worst
by aquaLion1074
Last post
 September 10th
...See more The worst thing you can hear once you already hate yourself is that you did something that caused terrible panic in someone else and ruined their night 😭. I just really needed to put my worry and pain onto words after I left a dripping wet towel above a toilet and made my dad think there was a leak 😞. Please if y'all comment share something to make you feel better because sharing worries can help put you at ease. (Words of happiness are always encouraged as well 💟)
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How I feel internally 😬🧿👁️
by polite2
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 September 10th
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Wake Up Polite
by polite2
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 September 10th
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Self-love🍃
by cheerfulKiwi1776
Last post
 September 7th
...See more Self-love is rarely a sudden breakthrough. More often, it’s a quiet decision you make over and over again—a choice to stay on your own side, even when everything feels heavy. ​If you are trying to rebuild a gentler relationship with yourself, consider these four reflections: ​How do you talk to yourself when no one else is listening? Notice the tone of your inner dialogue when you make a mistake. Are you treating yourself like an enemy, or are you offering the same grace you would extend to a friend? ​What are you holding onto that no longer serves your peace? Self-love isn't just about adding healthy habits; it's also about letting go. Are there expectations, past mistakes, or toxic dynamic patterns you need permission to release? ​Where in your life do you need to set a boundary? Protecting your energy isn't selfish—it's survival. What is one area where saying "no" to someone else means saying a necessary "yes" to your own well-being? ​What does your body and mind need from you right now? Forget what you should be doing for a moment. If you pause, take a deep breath, and listen closely. Do you need rest, movement, connection, or simply space to breathe? ​Real self-love doesn't mean having it all figured out. It just means showing up for yourself, one gentle choice at a time. Answer the questions below, in the comments: * How do you talk to yourself when no one else is listening? * What are you holding onto that no longer serves your peace? * Where in your life do you need to set a boundary? * What does your body and mind need from you right now? There is no pressure: share as much or as little as you want. Self-love is something we all deserve, so why not have it?🍃
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