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Boost Self-Esteem Month: Looking Inward & Breaking the Comparison Trap
by Heather225
Last post
 February 23rd
...See more Hello, lovelies, and happy Boost Self-Esteem Month! While we spend so much of this month talking about how we connect with others—our friends, our chosen family, our loved ones—there is one vital connection that lays the foundation for all the rest: our connection with ourselves. In today’s hyper-connected world, it's easy to accidentally outsource our self-worth. We measure our value in views/likes/shares i.e. the fleeting validation of social media. We scroll through our feeds, comparing our real-life behind-the-scenes to everyone else’s carefully filtered highlight reels. It is an exhausting habit and a fast track to feeling less than. And it's unfair! But here is the truth: Your worth is inherent. It does not fluctuate based on an algorithm or someone else's approval. This February, as part of Boost Self-Esteem Month, it's the opportune time to challenge ourselves to break the external validation habit. We are practicing the art of logging off, looking inward, and finding acceptance from within. Cultivating genuine self-esteem isn't about being perfect; it's about honoring your whole, authentic self without needing an audience to applaud it. Reflection Questions To help us shift our focus inward, take a moment to ponder these questions. We'd love for you to share your thoughts in the replies below! * If social media disappeared tomorrow and no one could ever see your accomplishments, appearance, or milestones... what internal quality would you value most about yourself? * What is one "highlight reel" trap you frequently fall into when scrolling, and what is a grounding, real-life truth you can tell yourself to escape it? ✋ The Inward Connection Pledge Awareness is the first step, but action is the second! We invite you to join us in making a gentle promise to yourself this month. Copy and paste the pledge below into your reply, filling in the blank with whatever works best for you! I pledge to recognize when the comparison trap is hurting my self-esteem. When I catch myself seeking external validation online, I commit to logging off and doing [insert one small act of self-care/self-love] to reconnect with my true self. Signed (with love + your name) ------------------------- I can't wait to read your reflections and see your pledges below! Remember: You are worthy of love, especially your own.  ------------------------- This post brought to you by February theme: The Heart of Connection [https://www.7cups.com/forum/projectsandevents/CommunityActivitiesEvents_1908/7CupsinFebruaryTheHeartofConnection_374480/]
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10 Day Self-Esteem Exploration Event
by SoulfullyAButterfly
Last post
 February 23rd, 2024
...See more Hi everyone, We are excited to announce the "10 Day Self-Esteem Exploration Event", which is kicking off on Monday, the 19th of February, as part of the International Boost Self-Esteem Month.  For ten days, we will explore self-esteem as a community. There will be daily prompts focusing on the different aspects of self-esteem, encouraging you to share your personal stories, insights, and experiences while learning new techniques and tips from our community. The event is designed to help us all understand the importance of self-esteem, boost our confidence, appreciate our worth, and inspire each other in the process. Are you ready to explore, learn, participate and grow on this self-esteem journey? If so, save the dates and meet us in the Special Events group support room.  Event Details - open to both adult listeners and members: Adults Location: Special Events Room Time: Open 24/7 between 19 Feb - 28 Feb. You can check-in at any time! To show interest in this event and be informed of future events, please fill out this form. [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe31pGvZDW8_aa8Cb8ywz4lOCpy4lkS5kekzsFXILwv3QQSjw/viewform]
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The road to peace.
by Janenaturefreak
Last post
 15 hours ago
...See more What is peace? In your perspective? I am on the road to be more at peace with myself after years of neglecting and belittling myself to match someone else so they can like me. I am finally looking to take care of me and to be more happier, more mindful, more humble, and less reactive. 🪶 there’s so much I want to do at once.
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My luck is a B
by PenPal1894
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Self esteem took a hit this morning as I got to know a girl who used to bully me in college got PPO at a big mnc company. It was bad enough that last year we had both applied for the internship where she got the offer and I had been waitlisted and never got the offer letter. I was sure that she won't be getting permanent but here we are.  I am stuck with an average service based MNC with an average package while she is going to earn a lot more than me. All my grades, perseverance, discipline... all feel like ***. Nothing mattered at the end.  Fun fact I am out of the race of gold medal too just because of a stupid professor who messed up my grades in 5 subjects because I didn't do some of the work he wanted. So really all that grind and zero reward.  So I feel like my luck is a ***. Also I have come to realise that being mean doesn't put you on God's bad side too. Someone recently told me that whom God favour depends on how much they do the worshipping and not on how they treat others. And it makes total sense to me now. Good intentions and being meek and polite are worth horse ***.
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Remember to be proud of yourself!
by brandonsguidance77
Last post
 Wednesday
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Racist encounter sypport
by unassumingPerson2479
Last post
 Tuesday
...See more Hello, I really don't know where to start, today I had a bad encounter with a racist, and believe me, in my life a had a handful of them, but this one stings the most, so basically I am an expat, living and working in another country, today I had to do a meeting call outside on the street, witch was long, while I was talking I was walking up and down the street, a racist native in a shop got annoyed of me, he went out start shouting, physically pushed me to the road, and shouted some racist slurs, I was in the meeting and I didn't know how to react, I cannot confront anyone physically since I am literally very weak, so I ignored ot and carried out, I finished my work and decided to go to his shop, and try to clear things, so I went in, greeted him, told him I am not looking for problems, I just wanted to clear things and carry on, like most racist he shouted in his own language, demanded that I talk like him, demanded that I never walk on the pavement near his shop, and said in clear words "I will hit you in case I saw you again and there is nothing you can do about it so take your *** and go away", now the region I am in has no rules, there are no one to talk to nor someone to complaint to, no police, and no major harm was done, I am just angry and crying, his shop is near where I work, and I really feel defeated, I will say again, it's not the first time I meet racist people, but this one stings the most, I tell myself that I did what I was raised to do, but it's not helping, i just can't fathom how a person can act like this and still be proud, I need someone to talk to, I need to forget, sorry I took a lot of your time
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What's One Thing You Like About Yourself?
by SmilesAlot777
Last post
 Monday
...See more Self-esteem can be hard to build, especially when we're used to focusing on our flaws. Today, I would like to encourage everyone to share one thing they genuinely appreciate about themselves, whether it's your kindness, resilience, sense of humor, or anything else. Sometimes reminding ourselves of our strengths is a small but meaningful step toward seeing our own worth.
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Intrusive Thoughts
by SayWhaaat
Last post
 Monday
...See more Unsure what category to post this in so I figured self esteem would work since it makes me feel like an absolute monster. Every night as I lay in bed, my mind feels dominated by a version of me that I have zero control over. Terrible thoughts begin to spill into my head and I can't seem stop them. They're usually back to back, jumping erratically from my kids getting hurt in all kinds of horrendous ways to myself being in dangerous situations. It feels like I am watching from above as this gruesome movie plays and I am forced to watch. My heart will start to miss beats as I cry my eyes out to these thoughts that don't feel like mine. I could never imagine such things all on my own. I am a good person with so much empathy it is a legit problem. When I am done crying, I get really angry at the intrusiveness of it all. I struggle to understand what is happening. All I can do is use the thoughts I can control to shout at this other version of me, I will tell it to STOP!.. but then I can't predict or anticipate what those intrusive thoughts might say next. I can argue with this thing for hours. It feels like I have another person living inside my head. It would be anyone's instinct to seek help. I know this. But believe me when I say.. these thoughts are incredibly "Stephen King", I would and could never openly tell people they're thoughts that originated from somewhere deep in my mind. I am looking to understand what is happening, solutions to regain control, or people's stories (especially if you sought help).
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losing
by Theamani
Last post
 Monday
...See more hello all. i use to be a high achiever during studies . now after ten years out of school and without any solid experience. and watching people going above and beyond who came to me for help. i just feel bad myself. due to some personal reason i didnt do proper job. just 8 months of part time and then small ventures. i never set my foot into the corporate world or working life. meanwhile i moved to another country learn that language not master it being fluent in it. these are my small wins. struggle with anxiety and depressio. and came out of it. but when i think of starting work again i have imense fear and shame. yes shame is the right word. for not trying enough not doing what others did. i lack confidence. i dont trust myself anymore. its not like i didnt try. but i got plenty of rejections, failed business, but now i feel like its not enough. ! i just feel like im a lost cause. why im sharing all that i dont know and i even dont know what im looking for here. thanks
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✨Self Affirmations ✨
by LightWinter3974
Last post
 Sunday
...See more Hi Amazing people! Hope life has been treating you gentle. today i would like to share some ✨self affirmations✨ with you all Please repeat after me: No matter what happened in the past, no matter what I’ve done, I accept myself. I forgive myself. I release everything that belongs to the past. I embrace and cherish who I am right now. I stand by myself I trust myself. I refuse to be defined by my past or by others. I give myself permission to feel and think whatever arises. I accept all of my emotions. I trust that life is unfolding at the perfect pace for me. I am deeply loved by the Universe. I choose to live as my most valuable self. I focus on my own life while respecting that others may live differently. I am grateful for the precious gift of life. The past is over; I choose to live fully in the present. My life is filled with infinite possibilities. I let go of my fear of communication and expression. I am important. I am unique. I am worthy. I am precious. I am whole. (I have a positive side, and it is okay to have a negative side too.) I am perfect exactly as I am. I can be my true self. I am worthy of love. I am worthy of respect. No matter what happened in the past, no matter what I’ve done, I deserve a happy life. ------------------------- The invisible tagging list: @HealingBalm, @emotionalSquare5117, @coveredbygrace, @dizzyisedawg, @Twambo, @OrchidGhost, @WhimsicalKat88, @kak061980, @Bournville, @sereneEve1233 , @gregariousPenny5919, @Bunnykat57, @sabeyesofblue3535, @Bhrigs, @Ace368, @CoolInTheChaos, @Rhiannon65, @Keenheart, @calmPlum5330, @rethabilesocute, @AnnaSilverberg, @ZeninMaki, @Phoenix1234theythem, @cheerfulKiwi1776, @Pickoff, @bubblePerson5643, @Starwarsfan1234, @PixelPawz, @SunnyT22 ------------------------- You are still eligible to ask for hugs even if you rolled in mud ten times
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Body dysmorphia
by affectionateOwl4692
Last post
 July 4th
...See more So... I think i have a body dysmorphia and i don't know how to get rid of it and how to support myself... I will talk to my therapist about it, but still... I always thought that I'm fat when others where saying that I'm not and that i have a healthy body... But i always was so surprised about it, like... How can they say that when I'm fat? Literally? But now, when i look at photos when i thought i was fat, i see a normal healthy body, always... And now i think that I'm fat... I look at the mirror and i see that i have big stomach, double chin and big thighs... But at the same time, i don't care about it, like, "ok, that's fine, i can just do sports" but still o feel disgusting... And I do know what to do about it... I feel anxious talking about it and i feel scared that something will go wrong... So... I don't know... I'm scared that i might be insecure even more about my body image if i will talk about it... So, I dont know... I'm scared...
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Drop Your Mood Emoji
by colorfulPanda8664
Last post
 July 4th
...See more If today had an emoji… what would yours be? 
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regret
by independentPlum7871
Last post
 July 2nd
...See more I have been carrying a lot of shame and regret about my past relationships and one sexual relationship. I often worry that my future husband will reject me if he knows about my past, and I find it very difficult to forgive myself. I was judged and ***-shamed in school, and those memories still affect me whenever I visit my hometown. Even though my life in college is much better, I keep questioning my self-worth and feel anxious that my past has ruined my future. I would like help processing these feelings, forgiving myself, and learning how to stop letting my past define me."
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Appreciate the small successes you give to yourself.
by WhimsicalKat88
Last post
 July 2nd
...See more You cannot use someone else's map to find your own path in life. 
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