perfectionism struggles
hey friends,
I’ve been feeling really isolated in these feelings lately, and I would just like to know if I’m not alone. Does anyone else struggle with perfectionism to a debilitating, spiraling, harmful degree?
I have immigrant parents and I’m from an incredibly competitive area where everybody is the next person to race. I was a gifted kid academically, and all my teachers family and friends assigned that role to me for life. I can’t seem to escape it. I have to be perfect in grades, and now in personality, interests, thoughts, etc. I also place this pressure on myself because I don’t know what my identity would be if I failed at these things.
Anyways, that’s just a long rant. I’m tired of teetering on this pedestal and slipping every day. Does anyone else relate to low self-esteem due to perfectionism? Does anyone else spiral at the tiniest failure?
@jwlsearching7 Oof, sorry dude. I understand the feeling of beating yourself up at small mistakes but I feel for u its on another level... Must be frustrating.
I hope this video helps: https://youtu.be/7DjRLZKx55A?si=BV5eVz-Jn_SA11fl
@jwlsearching7
Hey there, it depends how you process it. Maybe take a moment and recognize for yourself- in what areas your perfectionism has actually helped you in the recent past.
Every word including "perfectionism" has a positive and a negative significance. Its just that our brain is inherently designed to focus on the negatives.
This is my favorite article on perfectionism, backed by research:
https://hbr.org/2019/04/how-to-manage-your-perfectionism