Self-Harm Recovery Daily Check-in : Sunday, August 16th, 2020
Hey there beautiful beings <3
The week is coming to an end, I hope you all had a good week and are making the most of this sunday :)
I thought today we could talk about letting go of our emotions. Although emotions are a natural reaction to the situations that we face everyday, sometimes they tend to stick around and don't do us much good. That's maybe the sign that it's time to let them go. However, as easy as it's said, most of the time it's harder to do. So I wanted to share this little thought with you today : I was doing a meditation the other day and the main point was to let of go of emotions. Here's the twist, insted of just identifying the emotion and trying to push it away, you had to reflect on what that emotion could teach you and how you could grow from it. By doing this, you had already taken a step back from that feeling even if you hadn't let go of it completely.
Check-in questions :
1) How are you doing today ? Do you have any plans for the day ?
2) If you had to choose one emotion to represent today, what would it be ?
3) Are there any emotions that you'd like to let go of ? If so, what can you learn from them ?
Song recommendation of the day : Suffering for love by EDEN. This song just makes me want to dance around my flat with a lover, so many feelings !
Thank you all for checking-in, keep being your beautiful selves and take care <3
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@Slizzy564
1) How are you doing today ? Do you have any plans for the day ?
I'm feeling pretty good today. I'm going for a bike ride with my aunt today, she can't go very far because of her bad knees, but it keeps her being active and we spend some time together
2) If you had to choose one emotion to represent today, what would it be ?
I think happy
3) Are there any emotions that you'd like to let go of ? If so, what can you learn from them ?
I think the anger towards my parents, in particular my mother. I think I can learn to be cautious of people's intentions, but not be carried away by it
@Madaraismyspiritanimal
Hey there :)
I'm glad to hear that today is a good day for you ! Good luck on that bike ride, hope you have fun :) Even if you don't go far, it's nice to get out and about. Especially if you get to spend the time with your aunt, that sounds lovely !
Happiness leads to positive energy in my opinion, hope the good vibes stay with you :)
Oh relationships with parents can be complicated. I'm sorry to hear that you feel angry towards your mother. Being cautious of people's intentions but not getting carried away sounds like a wise lesson to take from all of this. Finding the suitable 'in between' is a very realistic way of seeing things.
Thanks for checking in with us, take care <3
Hey Slizzy ! Thanks for the post, I'm not the best with letting go so that's definitely a needed and great reminder!
1) How are you doing today ? Do you have any plans for the day ?
Im doing alright today. I worked out so thats out of the way already, once Ill have fully recovered Im hoping to get a bit of work done and maybe go through picture books so I can find some inspiration to draw something. Oh and maybe sorting my playlist! A pretty chill day in perspective!
2) If you had to choose one emotion to represent today, what would it be ?
Is lazy an emotion? :p A good lazy though, that plus a bit of stress/excitement considering I never know how my cells will have survived the weekend…
3) Are there any emotions that you'd like to let go of ? If so, what can you learn from them ?
Id like to let go of my resentment and bitterness. Some things that people close to me on whom I was supposed to be able to count on really hurt me and let me down big time, and now I feel like I cant count on them ever again and that creates a big distance. I dont think I could really trust them again but Id like to at least break the distance!
Take care <3
@LinearWaves
Hey there :) I think we all need a little reminder about letting go now and again ;)
Yay for the work out ! I still don't understand where you get the motivation from x) Hope you find some inspiration in those books :) Drawing or painting ? Or both ? Get that playlist sorted before I do it for you ;) Chil sundays are the best in my opinion, lovely way to end the end and get ready for the next :)
Like a laidback lazy then ! Those poor cells, you should bring them home with you, keep them company :)
Oooh those are two good ones to let go of, must weigh quite a bit on the heart those two... I'm so sorry to hear that people have let you down and that it's altered your trust in them. Even if we move on from some stuff, it's hard to not hear the little alarm bell in the back of our brain reminding us of the past. As for breaking the distance, I can understand that it's hard to do, where to start, will it be awkward, etc ? Good luck on that one <3
Thanks for checking-in, take care <3
@Slizzy564
Both hopefully ! I did find some cool pictures that could bring some inspiration, ill see if that ever happens !
I definitely should bring them home, cook them nice meals, tuck them in at night and tell them bedtime stories so they behave in the lab! ;)
Yeah I try my best not to be resentful, but at the end of the day if there is someone who let me down and didnt even try to make up for it afterwards, theres no way I will ever count on them again, the alarm is too loud to forget about it. But well, its how it is, in a way its a blessing to know on who you can count and on who you cant!
Thanks for your answer and support <3
@LinearWaves
Lets hope so :)
Haha yup sounds cool for them :) I'm sure they'd get on well with your house plants :)
Hum I suppose it's your way of not getting hurt too much you know ? We all have our defense mechanisms to avoid these kind of situations ... And yes in a way it is a blessing, I'm happy to hear that you see things that way :)
@Slizzy564
Hey there! Cool questions.
1) How are you doing today? Do you have any plans for the day?
I'm doing fine I guess! I'm planning to sleep after answering these questions. It's literally night in my home.
2) If you had to choose one emotion to represent today, what would it be?
I'll go with the feeling of emptiness. I have no idea what my purpose in life is. It's true that my day went well, but this feeling always gets into my mind no matter how much distractions I had.
3) Are there any emotions that you'd like to let go of? If so, what can you learn from them?
Disappointment. My favorite application to read manga, and my favorite website to watch anime is now gone this year 2020. I learned that there are more alternatives to read manga, and watch anime. >:)
I'm also disappointed that my relationship with my parents felt a bit shallow. I'm afraid that they will give me harsh feedbacks if I open up everything that I felt. Yep, they gave me a handful of harsh feedbacks before that's why I'm scared. Ahahaha
Gosh, I'm willing to bet that my future counterpart will cringe in reading this. 😝 Oh well, it feels relaxing to share this.
Thanks for reading, and take care! :)
@LovelyOrangeJuice
Hey there :)
Glad to hear that you're doing good :) Hope you rest well, sweet dreams <3
Oh what's the purpose in life ? Throwing out the big questions there ! ;) Alas I don't have the answer my friend ... Though I do understand, even if you have a 'good' day, it always seems unfulfilled when you ask yourself these kind of questions.
Oh no ! What happened ? Did they just decide to remove it ? Also what mangas/anime do you enjoy ? And yeah there are alternatives out there, I'm sure you'll find something :)
Hum relationships with parents are long and complicated. I'm sorry to hear that you fear their judgment if you open up to them. Though it's totally understandable if they've already done that in the past ... Have you tried bringing this up with them ?
Aaah don't we all cringe a bit when we read our past posts ? ;) As long as you're enjoying it for the time being, we'll worry about tomorrow when it comes, yeah ? :)
Thanks for checking-in, take care <3
@Slizzy564
Thanks for the kind words. :)
So, the application and website was remove due to copyright issues. Not to mention, piracy. x)
On the other side, I enjoy manga/anime that's action-oriented, tragic, or comedy. Some examples are Attack on Titan, Fate/Zero, A Silent Voice, and Angel Beats. Umm.. What about you? :D
As for my issues with my parents, I haven't tried to bring it up. I'm afraid, and our relationship isn't bad. The only problem in our family is the emotional barrier. It's not yet a big deal. Haha
Gosh, reading our past posts is cringey, and that's what make it memorable. Haha!
"As long as you're enjoying it for the time being, we'll worry about tomorrow when it comes", I love that line!
Thanks for your answer,
Much appreciated. :)
@LovelyOrangeJuice
I had to admit I don't know a lot of manga/anime (though my brother is a big fan so I've heard of a lot x) ), my favorites are Attack on Titan and Death Parade. I like the more dramatic stuff :)
Hum I understand you prefer to keep things as they are, I can relate to that. As yes sadly I feel like emotional barrier are quite common in families ... And even though it isn't a 'big' deal, it's still affecting you in a way and that's important too !
Yup definitely :) Though I suppose it shows us our progress .. ?
No worries :)
@Slizzy564
Check-in questions :
1) How are you doing today ? Do you have any plans for the day ?
Ok. Did all my stuff and heading to a small gathering. I feel really pent up and like I need some kind of violent outlet, but I think its ok. I hope...
2) If you had to choose one emotion to represent today, what would it be ?
Its a pretty steady day tbh. Which is really good. Is calm an ok word? I mean there are some little storms in my emotions but I try to not take them too seriously.
3) Are there any emotions that you'd like to let go of ? If so, what can you learn from them ?
I'm not sure its that easy. There is but I don't want to say. Sorry, lame response on a check-in... :)
@1morday
Hey there !
Good to hear that you got all your things done, though I'm sorry to hear that you feel pent up. You know reading your message, I thought of some songs lyrics that talked about having a hurricane inside us, thought it was kinda fitting ... ? I guess sometimes we just need to get the emotions out of us, though I do wish it's not in a violent way :) Is there anything that caused these emotions ?
Calm is fine :) You're free to use the words that you want :) I like that wording 'little storms in my emotions', hopefully sunnier weather will come along !
Hey that's fine, I'm not a police officer asking these questions, you're free to not answer them if you don't want too :) So no not a lame response :)
Thanks for checking-in with us, I hope peaceful times come your way, take care <3
@Slizzy564
1) How are you doing today ? Do you have any plans for the day ?
Hey Slizzy!! <3 I'm doing well today so far. I'm a bit behind on my work that I planned to work on because I facetimed a friend (an ex-crush actually) and helped tutor her with her math work. It's a bit of a weird feeling, because it was so unplanned and we haven't facetimed for a while, and I feel a bit unsure about it. I tend to be a person who over-gives and I'm scared of doing that again because I end up getting into an unbalanced relationship which isn't good. The rest of my day is just going to be reading for English and AP Euro homework! :)
2) If you had to choose one emotion to represent today, what would it be ?
It would be excitement I think! I was excited to help out my friend and excited to workout with my other online friends this morning and just feeling really excited about life overall (a bit too excited which might not be good but oh well).
3) Are there any emotions that you'd like to let go of ? If so, what can you learn from them ?
I kinda want to let go of all the stress I feel right now 🥺I have a lot of homework to do and a lot of responsibilities to tend to but I keep getting distracted by things coming up.
I've been listening to the song you recommended this entire time and I've forgotten how good of an artist Eden is. Thank you Slizzy for the music and the check-in post!
Hey hey @TheAtticusFinch !
Happy to hear that you're doing well ! Oh connecting with people you haven't talkd to for a while ? Sounds fun though I can understand that it's sometimes a bit awkward ! Especially when you facetime x) But hey if you know you're someone who gives too much, then that's a good start because you'll watch out for yourself, if that makes any sense ? I mean that at least you're conscious of it :) If need be, feel free to share with us :) and AP Euro ? What's that ?! x) Good luck with the homework !
Oh sweetie I'm happy that you're excited :) What more can we ask than to be excited about life ? (Don't wear yourself out though :) )
Letting go of stress is a very healthy thing to do ! Homework and responsabilities do tend to pile up on us, try not to get too crushed okay ? Taking time for yourself is just as important <3
I know right ? :) Glad you've enjoyed it :) <3
@Slizzy564
Awwwwh Slizzy! <3 I'm glad I recognized it too and tried to make some casual convo today with her and it went well :) I was just a bit scared of being used for academic knowledge like I've been used in the past but today's conversation we had proved me wrong a bit. AP European history is just a more advanced version of a history class centered around the European Renaissance and stuff like that from European History. The AP juts means that you have to take a big test in the end and it counts for college credit!
@TheAtticusFinch
It's nice to hear that the conversation went well for you and that you're not used just for your knowledge !
Oh okay ! Well good luck with that, I was so bad at history, I just can't remember anything x)
@Slizzy564
I love what you said about not trying to let go of the emotionand push it away but rather try to identify hat the energy is there trying o tell us or teach us, and automatically that mindfulness or way of looking at the emotions Become non attatchment from the emotions.
I think about it like this:
trying to push an emotion away is like trying to force a beach ball under water : the more you push it down( run from the emotion or push it away) the more it forces itself back up to the top of the water ( the emotions roars its head).
I think you realized something incredible about the nature of letting go.
thank you for sharing that with us.
1) How are you doing today ? Do you have any plans for the day ?
i had a horrible fight with my aunt this morning. i realize how toxic and kinda, well, emotionally abusive it is here. So, i bassically tried to just stay out of the house today and when i came home, i just nappend. Everything is okay now ...i guess my plans for the rest of the day is 7cups time, making some calls to catch up with friends and then watching a movie.
2) If you had to choose one emotion to represent today, what would it be ?
ooh, good question. lemme think.... i guess i would be wounded? is that an emotion? i am so not good with that, lol.
3) Are there any emotions that you'd like to let go of ? If so, what can you learn from them ?
yes!
i am letting go of feeling like a victim. This energy is teaching me that that i have more choices and options than i let myself see or act on. I am ot a victim and i have freedom - but sometimes it takes the opposite ( being victim) to see that i can have more.
@blissedNblessed
Hey there :)
I love your comparison with the beach ball, that's a really good way of putting it ! Also very fitting for the season ;) Glad you like the topic :)
I'm so sorry to hear about this argument with your aunt and the realization of the toxicity of your environment. Putting some distance between you and her seems a wise way to deal with this. I hope things get better for you in the near future. Your plans for the rest of the day seem pretty chill, it's nice to catch up with friends now and again :) What movie are you planning to watch ?
You don't have to be good, if you want it to be wounded then that it'll be :) Though I'm sorry to hear that you feel this way. I hope you get some time to heal you know ?
Oh that's a very lesson to take from that feeling. I love the fact that you see it as having more options and being freer. Seems like you're waiting to fly away with new wings ?
Thanks for your wise words and for checking-in with us, take care <3
@Slizzy564
yesss :) ready to fly with wings - absolutley...like the pheonix!
I am so glad you like the beach ball analogy <3
yup- i took the day for things that i enjoy and stayed so far away from her.
shes actually much nicer today -
and hahaha, i wanted to watch a few movies i had...but ended up just talking on the phone almost all day and night , hahahah
@blissedNblessed
Oh yeah a pheonix sounds super cool ! ;)
Ah I'm glad to hear that you had a good day and that she seems nicer today :)
Haha well at least you had a good time, that's all that matters :)