Self-Harm Recovery Daily Check-in: Thursday July 16, 2020
Hello, everyone! We're basically halfway through the month already- how crazy is that? I always say it but on reflection, time can and does pass us by super quickly. I want to talk about support systems for today's check-in.
Our support systems play a really important role in us recovering from self-harm and continuing down the path of recovery. As we all know, recovery isn't easy. Not at all. But knowing that we have some people supporting us by our side and cheering us on can help so much. They can also keep us accountable for what we said we were going to do. Humans tend to work that way- we feel more likely and more desire to do what we said we would do, for fear of feeling guilt, shame or sadness.
Support systems can be relied on to help lift us back up when we're feeling down or have slipped up or relapsed. They won't judge- rather, they'll be there to comfort us in times of need and they'll be there to celebrate our wins with us.
Today's questions are:
1) How are you today? Is there anything you'd like to share with us?
2) Who are the people/ Who is the person in your support system? They can be physical people in real life, they can be role models, they can be fictional. Whatever helps you and brings you comfort, helps.
3) This icebreaker will be completely off topic from the check-in! What is the top-charted song in your country right now? Do you like the song?
Take care of yourself, and have a good rest of the week! xx
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Hello everyone~
1) How are you today? Is there anything you'd like to share with us?
Today was just so-so. I had a lot of homework to finish, thankfully Ive managed to done them now!
2) Who are the people/ Who is the person in your support system?
Im so glad you took into account fictional characters - Ive always thought Im weird for having them as my support system lol. I definitely have lots of comfort characters, mostly those I can really ‘see myself onto, or just those I find neat, haha. As for real people, my online friends as well as a few irl buddies are my number one support system.
3) This icebreaker will be completely off topic from the check-in! What is the top-charted song in your country right now? Do you like the song?
I dont listen to local songs unfortunately xD so I dont really know hehe
Thank you so much for the check in! Take care~
@Hydrangea03
Yay for homeworks done, well done!
I came accross hydrangeas during my run yesterday, such pretty flowers!
Yayy!!! ^w^
Oh you came across some hydrangeas!! That
Yayy!!! ^w^
Oh you came across some hydrangeas!! That
@rebecca947
1) How are you today? Is there anything you'd like to share with us?
I'm feeling meh today it's def an off day and I hate it. I'm just not feeling good mentally. I just woke up and I'm feeling self conscious about my scars I really hope they go away soon I'm worried because what if my husband's family finds out they don't know I struggle with this and I don't want them to know.
2) Who are the people/ Who is the person in your support system? They can be physical people in real life, they can be role models, they can be fictional. Whatever helps you and brings you comfort, helps.
My friend, my husband, my dog, my grandma. No one from my family knows I relapsed and I don't want them to it would worry them to death the only people who know are my husband and my 2 friends that's it.
3) This icebreaker will be completely off topic from the check-in! What is the top-charted song in your country right now? Do you like the song?
"MAIS JE T'AIME - Grand Corps Malade & Camille Lellouche" Um no it sounds pretty but I have no idea what they're saying lol.
@itidc
I hope you're feeling better by now, or that the weekend will help! You've got this! We're here for you if anything <3
(they say "i love you" during the whole song, the rest doesn't make much sense lol)
@LinearWaves
Oh i see lol and thank you so much! Yesterday was rough I just randomly sobbed on my husbands lap and he rubbed my back and then cheered me up, he's literally the best. 
@itidc
Hé definitely sounds like it and like he is of great support for you! I'm glad you have him ❤️
@LinearWaves
Thank you so much!
@rebecca94
1) How are you today? Is there anything you'd like to share with us?
I am okay. I rode 101 miles on my bike today, which is always a good achievement for me.
2) Who are the people/ Who is the person in your support system? They can be physical people in real life, they can be role models, they can be fictional. Whatever helps you and brings you comfort, helps.
therapist, spiritual director, one close friend who knows about my difficulties. I tried to tell another friend, but he was too respectful of my privacy to ever bring it up again. We talked about that once after, after some drinks. He told me he won't bring SH up unless I do. Which I guess is fine. I don't really think he's part of a support network effectually though.
3) This icebreaker will be completely off topic from the check-in! What is the top-charted song in your country right now? Do you like the song?
I am sorry, I have no idea! Do they even have charts anymore? :)
@1morday
Yay for that bikeride! Congrats! Did you end up needing food?
@LinearWaves
I ate for the 101 miles. Don't want to push my luck!
@rebecca94
1) How are you today? Is there anything you'd like to share with us?
Im doing okay today! Ive been feeling weirdly weak the past few weeks, I forced myself to go on a run yesterday and it seems to have improved things so yay! My mother is being her incredibly annoying/condescending/impatient self though so Im already regretting that I traveled back here to keep her company for the holidays… and I'm not sure how I'll make it through the next 2 weeks with her if she stays like that!
2) Who are the people/ Who is the person in your support system? They can be physical people in real life, they can be role models, they can be fictional. Whatever helps you and brings you comfort, helps.
Right now my support system is not at its best I guess, but Id say that over the years Ive been able to build my support system within myself (if that makes any sense) and I find myself much more able to rely on myself than I used to before.
3) This icebreaker will be completely off topic from the check-in! What is the top-charted song in your country right now? Do you like the song?
I just checked the top 50 from France according to spotify and I literally only know/listen to 4 songs from it lol but to answer, the top-charted is Djomb – Bien ou quoi – Im listening to it right now and its definitely not my type!
Take care!
@LinearWaves
Psst, thank you SO MUCH for replying to the comments! I'm incredibly bad at doing them on time as @Benny0 said..., have you noticed too? xD
Physically weak? I wonder why- I hope you're getting in hydration, plenty of food and rest in. Sometimes, it can be physiological and other times mental. Oh no, it helps make you see clearer why you decided to move out then. I really hope you'll be able to handle her- we're here for you to vent or rant or cry. We'll be here for you, just as you are for everyone else and I <3
That's a good and unique answer. As a quote says, "We can only truly trust in ourselves". Without self-trust, there is no trust that we can receive from others.
LOL what kind of music is it- pop I'll be guessing? I hope you're doing ok. Take care of yourself and keep going for more runs if you can! You can run for me, and I'll do strength exercises on behalf for you. It sounds like a good deal to me. :p
@rebecca947
Haha its definitely hard to keep up with replying!
I wonder why too! I'm guessing it's a bit of both and that it will come back slowly! And it will get better once I'm back to my place without my mother getting on my nerves lol
Great deal! I've been doing strength training too lately but it's quite hard! Do you do it often?
Thank for replying, take care! ❤️
@LinearWaves
Strength training is my literal jam. I absolutely love it, and the improvements are way quicker to see than cardio in my opinion xD but I'm biased, so... don't trust my judgment too much lol
@rebecca947
I share the same opinion about cardio lol but it's like for strength training: you also have to work on what you don't like! I usually try to add a quick HIIT before strength training, so that it's a bit cardio, plus warms me up and makes my muscles a bit tired already, but I always hate it lol buuuut it's efficient!