Tired
It's been about a month since I last self harmed, I hid the marks from my partner because I didn't want them to know I broke my promise. That promise is the only thing that stops me from doing it again and lately it's getting harder to rationalize why breaking that promise again would be a bad thing. I can't talk to my family about this and my partner would only see this as a problem that I'm asking them to fix. I'm getting tired of carrying this, it's lonely and I'm not sure talking about it would even help but at this stage, what could it hurt?
@resourcefulZebra2151 hi, i know this is a really difficult thing to reach out for help for. Have you tried talking to your partner about how to help you rather than making them think they have to fix it?
@Lovelyrose62 I've tried talking to them before, and it didn't help either of us. I feel guilty because I'm not sure if I am justified in my thinking that my partner should be better in this situation. I'm not sure if that is something a partner should be doing, I know we're supposed to get through things together but if they don't understand my situation then how can I expect them to help? It's just all confusing and it makes me dig deeper into isolation.
@resourcefulZebra2151 could you think of ways you would want them to help you?
@resourcefulZebra2151
Hi, I am new to this community and saw what you wrote just now. I am in the same situation as you. What helped me and my partner, was explaining in detail how I feel when I self-harm. I wrote down how I felt and why I wanted to self-harm and just all my thoughts and feelings before during and after self-harming. This made my partner more comprehensive. It would be good for you to learn not to do it, not only as a promise but also for yourself! (i know it is hard, i am currently working on it too)
