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User Profile: abitok0412
abitok0412 February 3rd, 2018

I have been on this site for a few days, mostly talking to myself. I have had no success in finding someone to talk to. I guess that

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User Profile: EnergySensitive
EnergySensitive February 3rd, 2018

@abitok0412. I used to love this site. Lately I feel more alone being on the site. I thought this was a place to be heard, and supported but I have not felt this lately.

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User Profile: abitok0412
abitok0412 OP February 3rd, 2018

@EnergySensitive I understand. I feel lost among a sea of people on this site. Perhaps u will find better help than I have. Just dont give up on yourself.

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User Profile: EnergySensitive
EnergySensitive February 3rd, 2018

@abitok0412. You don't give up either!! If nothing else we can be there for each other on this site. At least it's something!!!! We can pick a community where we can create a forum and tagging each other somehow. If we stick to one community it will be easier for us to find each other. Even if our chat is not private, it doesn't seem to matter, like no one is even reading it..

So how does that sound? We both keep trying together!

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User Profile: abitok0412
abitok0412 OP February 3rd, 2018

@EnergySensitive. That sounds awesome! Im still learning on this site so I may need your help in creating forums and tagging. Perhaps we can talk on chat too? Take care!

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User Profile: EnergySensitive
EnergySensitive February 4th, 2018

@abitok0412 .Ok I saw self harm community. Want to use this community or another? Don't worry I still have issues finding things on the site.

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User Profile: abitok0412
abitok0412 OP February 4th, 2018

@EnergySensitive. The self harm comm is ok. Thats where I originally started.

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User Profile: EnergySensitive
EnergySensitive February 4th, 2018

@abitok0412 ok! So we can create a real forum post but in title put & as first word. So we know its for us to connect. Click follow on my page.

Hey, we actually just put a safety plan in place ourselves! Who would have thought😱 I'm now laughing that we can continue on this thread. Just subscribe to it I think!

Talk to you soon. I'll check every time I get on which is several times a day.

Our same feeling of this site not recently working. And what the listener did to you and only one person I think, other than me, actually heard you and responded. To me with a community of millions of people struggling everyday you would think more people would respond or offer support. It's shocking at times. ✌

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User Profile: summertimeSamness
summertimeSamness February 3rd, 2018

@abitok0412

I'm sorry that you haven't found someone who has helped you yet. It's a really bad feeling to have to experienced on this site. Sometimes finding the right person can take awhile. I hope you can get the help that you deserve here because you matter and sharing your story is super important <3

User Profile: rebecca947
rebecca947 February 5th, 2018

@abitok0412 @EnergySensitive

I'm really sorry this site doesn't seem to help you. It can take a while to find a listener you can really connect with, but it is so worth it when you do. I really hope you continue seeking help- I suggest using the Browse Listeners page (click chat at the top left of this site and then browse listeners) and search based on cheers. It's what I used to do as a member- generally the more cheers a listener has, the higher the listener level and more experience they have. But most of all, it's about connection. It doesn't matter how much experience they have, as long as you feel a connection wth them.

In the meantime, subcommunities are a great place to start! For some subcoms, you can also post in the thread "New to this community this month? Post here!" (Something along the lines of that) and you'll get a nice welcome and meet new people!

Sorry for the long post, but I hope this helps! Good luck, and keep trying! xx

User Profile: Magpi3ty
Magpi3ty February 7th, 2018

@abitok0412

I often feel this way too. It seems much more helpful to me to browse through listeners and find someone who suits my needs (which usually takes me a few pages of looking)

Connecting to random listeners is 99% newbies and takes a long time.

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User Profile: abitok0412
abitok0412 OP February 8th, 2018

@Magpi3ty I know right. Most of the listeners I encounter are new and I ran into problems where they said they were still too new to the site to help me! Really!??

I haven't even tried to find a listener again. All the ones i tried said they were new or never answered me back.

Take care

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User Profile: AzureWinter
AzureWinter February 9th, 2018

@abitok0412 Hey. I'm sorry you feel like this. I've only just joined so I'm still getting used to it all. However, I'm always happy to talk in forums and things! I hope that things get better for you soon. It's a really horrible way to feel, I understand.

User Profile: 99kasey
99kasey February 13th, 2018

@abitok0412

What do you need to forgive yourself for?.sorry you have had no success

User Profile: EnergySensitive
EnergySensitive February 25th, 2018

@abitok0412

Spoiler Alert! You gave it away! I'm going to 7cups jail!!!

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User Profile: abitok0412
abitok0412 OP February 25th, 2018

@EnergySensitive

what are you talking about?

User Profile: abitok0412
abitok0412 OP February 25th, 2018

@EnergySensitive

I don't even know what you were trying to do since you didn't tell me ahead of time...

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User Profile: EnergySensitive
EnergySensitive February 25th, 2018

@abitok0412

Just messing with you! So did you write it down? Now we can chat in real privacy!

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User Profile: abitok0412
abitok0412 OP February 25th, 2018

@EnergySensitive

No. like I said...I wasn't told ahead of time what I was looking for or what you were trying to do. So I don't know if you were trying to stay on this site or go to another site or what.

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User Profile: EnergySensitive
EnergySensitive February 25th, 2018

@abitok0412

Sorry. Being incognito! So I'll post it again on my feed because I can delete that. Not sure if you can delete a whole thread. So get a pen write it down. Posting now. Let me know

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User Profile: abitok0412
abitok0412 OP February 25th, 2018

@EnergySensitive

Ok...got it

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User Profile: EnergySensitive
EnergySensitive February 25th, 2018

@abitok0412

Cool! Shoot me one. Or go through Hangouts. Are you comfortable with sharing

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