Question?!?
Hi! Umm so I have a question for you guys. So I haven't sh in almost 2 months. But I feel like I don't deserve to say that I'm struggling or to think that it is hard for me to not do it even though it is ,because I sh only for like 8 months maybe and I see people who has struggled with sh for years. And I feel so guilty and like I don't deserve to even call myself sober or even when I really want to do it I don't think I deserve to say that I'm having a hard time, because I haven't been doing it for as long as other people. And I feel like I haven't strugglled enough. And I know"you shouldn't compare your struggles with other people's struggles" but it's so hard. I feel so guilty I feel like I'm overreacting.And I'm just wondering if there is anyone else who is in similar situation do y'all feel like that too? And what do you do about it?😟(I'm sorry that this is long )
@Anonymous138 I had similar feelings, about not being "bad enough" to count, or because it was fairly easy for me to stop (even though the thoughts were still there), do I deserve to be included in the sh recovery group...and the truth is, you do belong. You deserve to be able to use these terms for yourself. Your journey is your own, and you don't need to have it "bad enough" or "long enough" for it to still matter and impact you. You're going through this, and that's real. I know, easier said than done to not compare yourself :P but if you might think of what you'd say if you saw this post by someone else, chances are you'd feel they are very allowed to say all the things they're feeling doubtful about. And yet we hold our own experiences to higher standards, for no real reason. Sometimes helps to try to think of yourself as you would a friend :)
@TaranWanderer thank you ♥️
@Anonymous138
I feel the same way. I often feel very guilty for even asking for help or saying that I am struggling, but the truth is, you deserve help and you don't need to struggle as long as others (which is good for you) or as hard as others to use the same term for your struggles. Every struggle is valid, don't let your mind tell you otherwise.