Cover ups?
I'll be on holiday soon where its warm and won't be able to hide visible scars. Is there anything I can do to make sure they're not seen?
@thoughtfulBalsam7792
I’m familiar with the dread of realizing it’s possible your scars will be visible to someone or some people for any reason, especially when they’re unfamiliar to you, or still earning your trust.
What helped you navigate this last summer? And also, are you femme/masc? I have some strats for femmes, but if you present masculine, I’ll have to do a lil brainstorming with ya.
For years, I found ways to hide my scars— and all those years, I wanted to be brave about it but as the years past, I continued finding ways to hide. I’d think “this is it— I’m not going to care this time,” and then quickly retreated into my Plan B. I will say, all this time later, finally truly deciding and accepting that other people’s perceptions of me wasn’t at all my business.. it’s been so much more peaceful. I missed out on being truly present in so many positive experiences because I was focused on my fears… and looking back, I couldn’t tell you who any of the people around during those times were. Will people stare? Maybe— but we’re not here to mind read. These moments are about us allowing ourselves the liberation to experience joy while we’re alive to do it— because all of those moments that tried to shred you apart from the inside out, only left behind scratches… you’re still here. You won.
With that said, I’m still here if you’d like to brainstorm some creative ways to enjoy your holiday where you can still feel secure and comfortable. You deserve to have a great time and your boundaries are always worth honoring. Let me know! Ping me back here if you wanna.
Thank you yeah that would be great! 😊 Last summer was easier as where I live is not too warm so I was able to get away with wearing long sleeves and hoodies and trousers but where I will be going will be very hot and I won't be able to cover up as easily.
@thoughtfulBalsam7792
I grew up in a desert so adapting while melting in 110-120F weather is my secret talent, lol~*~
So tell me about your style, would you consider your fashion more femme, masc or both? ~
That's perfect 😃. I'm a more feminine style.
@thoughtfulBalsam7792
My go-to was alwayyyys mesh! Like Sarongs, there are so many kinds and they’re body posi (tons of sizes)— diff lengths, whateva. ᵕ̈ So if your scars are on your thighs, this is a good go-to. But cute regardless. Sometimes I wear one over jeans/jean shorts just because ⟡ fashion ⟡ Also, there are more swim short styles available as well.
If your scars are on your upper arms, there are swimsuit styles that can cover arms— cupshe, torrid, and some others even. But also, kimonos and kaftans (shot or long) are great bc they’re breathable and so you can wear tank tops and other breezy things while still feeling covered and secure. Now, for lower arms— there are always stacking bracelets. Or for an entire arm coverage, thin and light cardigans are helpful too because you can wear tanks— and not feel like you’re heating up too badly, and they’re casual-cute.
Do any of these sound worth trying? If I didn’t mention an area you had concern for, just let me know bc if you want to brainstorm more, you are welcome to message me. If you want to talk about SH recovery and receive some support, I’m also here for you too.
And most importantly, I hope your holiday is wonderful and that you make great memories. ♡
Thank you, those are very helpful I will definitely try them out!! 😊👍
