The best way to support me is… #prompts
Todays prompt is going to be about support! There are tons of ways to support people, whether its offering advices, just listening quietly, complaining together, giving a hug or a shoulder to cry on, planning distractions and comforting activities, giving space… As you can see though, all these ways to support others are very different, because were all very different so thats expected! And when supporting a loved one, its really important to know how to help -which is a hard one- so knowing what kind of support they need can be of huge help!
So, here comes the prompt -feel free to adapt it if you need!-
The best way to support me is…
(Also, never hesitate to share it with your support system! The best way to get the support we need is to actually share what kind of support helps us – yes it sounds silly but I know that for long Ive made the mistake of expecting people to just know how to support me so Im sharing that simple fact in case it can help someone else!)
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hi linearwaves <3
hmm, this is a good one - its making me think....
The best way to support me is listening with no judgment - not trying to solve it, but just being with me in my pain. Then, finding ways with me to change my situation or pain. But sometimes i just need to wallow in it for a while. it is a way of honoring my pain. I do not always wanna just get rid of it without feeling it , honoring and then letting go.
Another way to support me is taking me out of my head ( a semi dangerous place to play, lol)...through laughter, lighthearted conversation or even deep thoughts about the Universe and our places in it. Sometimes I need to get out of my head to see there are options and switch up perspectives.
Also helpful for me are doing pro-con lists, figuring out why im really upset ... bc sometimes the thing im wailing about isnt really the main root cause of why i am upset.
I guess what I have as a support system are friends that listen ( sometimes - i am finding many of them are quite one sided and are not there for me, emotionally. I also listen to music to emote, write poems that express how i feel, do CBT thought exercises, meditation, mindfulness and I do energy work ( reiki) on myself.
@blissedNblessed
Hey there ! Long time no see, its good to see you there again !
These are all lovely ways to offer you support! I can totally relate to the fact that sometimes we need to honor our pain, to feel it before being able to let it go. Its really great to see there are lots of ways to offer you support, and that youre support system is there for you (although I hope it could be more often than sometimes!), but most importantly that you know how to support your own self <3
Thanks for sharing!
The best way to support me is free hugs !! Even though I'm a big introvert, I love hugs from the people who I am close to. It's that physical representation of 'I'm here to keep you from falling to pieces' feeling. Also I like when I can just rant, talk about anything in this crazy mind of mine and people just go with it. And regular check-ins, even if it's a random message, I find comfort in the fact that people reach out to me, rather than me always messaging them, it feels like I'm bothering them ... Now if you want the ultra combo : a chill night sitting outside watching the stars, cuddling and talking about how we could change the world ! Something like that would be great <3
@Slizzy564
Hugs really have a deep meaning, I couldnt agree more ! Same for being able to just rant, and to be checked on spontaneously!
It sounds like a lovely combo indeed! I hope you can find that kind of support <3
Thanks for sharing!
@LinearWaves
Honestly, the best way to support me is just to give me a lot of attention and love :P I know it sounds selfish and it even feels a bit selfish saying it, but I've really grown to accept that we all *Deserve* attention in our lives from our friends and family as long as it's in a healthy way. I think it's the best when my friends give me "attention" is by sending me really wholesome messages when I'm sad and support me by asking me what I need. I think being patient around me is also crucial as well since I tend to lash out sometimes when I'm under a lot of stress or not feeling great! <3
@TheAtticusFinch
That definitely doesnt sound selfish at all ! <3 We all deserve love and attention, in a healthy way of course as you say it! Its really great that youre so aware of what you need and how people can support you, I hope you can have that support when needed! Thanks for sharing!
just be there. just make plans or act like you genuinely enjoy my company. just be normal and be a friend, make the effort. that's not attention-seeking, it's asking for the most basic requirement of maintaining a relationship. just be a friend. don't be passive aggressive or condescending. don't try to fix me. don't be cruel or dismiss what i feel about certain things. and don't dismiss the impact you might have when betraying someone, or make them always be the one to apologize or empathize or reach out. just be a friend.
@dworth257
I really love how you summed it up as ‘just be a friend ! Its true that all these are just things to expect coming from real and genuine friends and definitely not attention-seeking! <3 Im sorry though as it sounds that some people have been passive-aggressive to you, or have tried fix you, dismissed how you felt, turned things their way, its great that youre seeing that these arent normal and arent supportive. I really hope you can receive that kind of support when needed and count on your friends!
@LinearWaves thanks so much !!
