I just wonder how can I act so I don't bother her
Hi, I hope you're reading this in good health. My girlfriend of 3 years sometimes drinks and smokes weed I really dislike that and I don't know how to act around her when she does that we talked about it before and I made it clear that I don't have a problem if she drinks inside the house so I can take care of her myself, but sometimes she insists on going out with her friends to drink. I trust her she's a grown adult but I don't like her friends one of them hit on her before and I don't like them.
I just wonder how can I act so I don't bother her with it...she's not an alcoholic or addicted to weed but I don't want her to get to that point. Im genuinely worried about her and don't want to annoy her too.
@Kordyzk
I believe you should tell her the truth ... you have concerns and worry about her...
if you want to act like no big deal and let her do whatever she wants .... at what point would you be willing to speak up... after a problem or addiction ? maybe a accident or injury when drunk?
I played that game......... at one point did not want to upset my now spouse..... hinted around but pretended he knew what he was doing ...LOL .... and it is just subtle enabling ....
so all the costs of DUI's ( thousands of dollars) and our insurance rates high for years because his past now the fabulous prize of life long health issues.... all to not upset him or have him angry at me....
afraid to tell the person the truth helps no one.