A FIGHT THAT CHANGED MY LIFE
She was staying at my house because our aunt came to our country with her kids, I also did for some weeks. We had little fights when she was here but it wasn't that bad until the third day. I messed up real bad. She said something mean to me indirectly and I also talked back to her indirectly even though it wasn't fully my fault, the blame was put on me. We had a fight, my cousin took me away from there (she took me in the lawn outside while my cousin was inside the tv lounge where the fight started). Our other cousins tried to calm me down while other cousins, aunt, my mother and grandmother tried to calm her down. It was late night (2 am) , she called taxi and left, since it wasn't good to let her go alone my aunt left with her to her house then came back when she was safely at her house with her parents. I was scared so scared that I couldn't calm down because my parents are her parents siblings, my mother and her mother are sisters and my father and her father are brothers and their parents were friends (they passed away). I was scared that their so good relationship will end up because of me. Next day, there was a gathering at my house, our uncle went to take her, she came but I later found out that she lied to our uncle about everything and he was angry at me and he wasn't going to come at the gathering but my other cousin told him everything so he came. My aunt also limited her interaction with me till she was here. Other relatives found me at fault even tho it was also her fault.
It has been many months now and till now we didn't speak. even if we did , she would talk badly with me. Today something happened that made me realise that I don't resent her even after a big fight. She's selfish and bad but still. We used to have fights and not talk for months, we still talked and reconciled later. She's badly insulted in our whole family, they all know her truth of being selfish but still don't act or talk badly to her. I'm the only one who didn't hate her or insult her behind everyone. But when her time came to prove her sincerity with me, she lost. She talks kindly to everyone except me. Why? Because I told her the truth about her and her selfishness. I hid her secrets but she...
I'm like her youngest sister, she used to care about me but now she doesn't, it feels like she never cared. We both are the only siblings of our parents so it's kind of normal for us to feel close but... She talks sweetly to my parents , I'm happy that atleast she talks nicely to them. She doesn't care if anyone noticed that we fought (no one in my father's side know about it)
@carefulCurrent5321
It sounds like she said something very triggering to you that caused you to react. Sadly this can happen. I can understand though that you do not feel like taking the blame for everything! It must hurt not getting any support from the others. So sorry this happened to you. It's painful when you have such a close relation to a person and just one fight destroys it all and make you feel like you were never truly cared for. I hope that one day she will reflect on what happened and see it was not only your fault.