Be Kind To Yourself
- How kind are you usually to yourself on a scale of 1 to 10 (1 being the least kind and 10 being very kind)?
- How do you comfort yourself when things are tough?
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I know im mean to myself the most, (maybe a 3?) but I still try to recognize and seek comfort when im spiraling, my partner is the best at helping me with this.
I know me. I know I will try and do the right thing and am selfless. If I make a mistake I will try and fix it. Therfore, until I show signs I have changed I will give myself grace and understanding in this difficult life we are in. We all start from 0 knowledge and cannot tell the future. The only way you can really predict things too is to have experienced it in some way before too which means once again you are starting from a point of knowledge in the area so we should expect many mistakes for the rest of our lives and not be surprised when it happens just try and learn and fix and move forward gracefully.
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For me the number slides up and down some. I suppose a 5 on the scale..... sometimes 3 and sometimes 7.
I comfort myself by really three ways. If I am feeling a little down I do try to find a way to treat myself on my next day off. Which for me who struggles with social anxiety, I usually get a sweet treat or snack or salty snack with some red wine. If I am feeling particularly overwhelmed I might schedule an appointment for a haircut, massage, or even waxing (or sugaring).
The third is a more serious one for me. Because of the history of childhood sexual abuse and living with two alcoholic parents and many of my needs never being met, I self soothe. What happens is if being frustrated, overwhelmed, some disappointment, or the confinement feelings of isolation, I get extra anxious, heart rate increases and then experience a panic attack. With feeling a no way out of the loop, I feel I have to calm the brain and turn to self stimulation in the hopes the dopamine calms my brain. Then the mind calms and I can rest.
What's perculiar to me is I have maintained good self control on drinking (alcohol), even though both my parents were alcoholics, I maintained control on food, but where I found out that I wasn't perfect is the attachments to self soothing.
I that wasn't to deep for this post. I am working on treating myself with better compassion and patience as I work through my struggles. Thanks for letting me share.
@warmheartedAvocado7047 it is hard to overcome the habits of the past or conditioning from experiences. Another form of self soothing that I find more long lasting and beneficial than wine which I gave up after not really feeling better drinking it is allowing the breath to be calm by following it but not judging myself if thoughts distract me but to go back to following and allowing the breath without judgement.
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