Change?
I always feel like because of how I am and who I am I'll never have friends, I'm always being misjudged and misunderstood even by my own family. I think it's time to change
@D17id
It's hurts when even close ones do not understand but misjudge you. I wonder whether you are more on the introverted side. Introverts often find it hard to quickly express their thoughts, but this isn’t a flaw, it is more because they are thinking deeply and can find it more difficult to put their thoughts into words. Does that sound familiar?
What do you think needs changing?
@amiablePeace77 I'd say I'm more introverted but others say I'm very extrovert, I really don't know what to change, but everytime I just feek like changing my whole self or personality is the best thing to do
@D17id
Feeling to have to change yourself completely sounds painful to me. Accepting yourself how you are and learning to ignore hurting comments from others needs practice, but it can be done and is worthwhile!
What are things you like about yourself and never want to change?
I like to share this video with you from Tara Brach
Radical Acceptance is a Prerequisite for Change
You might be in the middle of intro- and extrovert, meaning that you are an ambivert
@amiablePeace77 Thanks for the video! I might be an ambivert. About myself, I like making people laugh, making people feel appreciated, I like to give my opinions about certain topics, I'm a very friendly person always trying to put a smile, but idk, it seems like that isn't working for me. I talk to people but I have no friends
@D17id
You seem to care a lot about others! Finding friends and building relationships can be difficult in general.
May I ask what you are looking for in a person to become a friend?
@amiablePeace77 In a friendship I look for someone that I can vibe with, someone that understands me and isn't embarrassed of being seen with me, someone that I can have deep conversations and lots of laughs. That's what I'm looking for!
@D17id
That are good things to look out for in a friend! I hope you will soon find people who appreciate you for the person you are. Remind yourself that you are wonderful, and others don’t determine how you view yourself! The more one believes in themselves the less others are going to make fun out of a person.
When are times that you feel self-confident?
@amiablePeace77
You're right! Times I feel confident I'm not so sure, maybe when I'm trying to prove my points regarding certain topics at school.
I really hope I can find ppl that'll like me
It's not normal for me, as a teenager, to be feeling tired everyday at all times. I feel like this because I'm always too hard on myself. I try to be the best, I try to make friends, I try to not disappoint my family, I try to be the golden kid everyone thinks of me, I try and try, but I don't have friends, I feel like I'm always depressed, I'm always alone, I need to rest but HOW? WHEN? I'm tired of these feelings, it's so overwhelming, it's so TIRING
I understand you 100%. I try so har dto be"normal" but life gets so complicated. I found difficult to make and keep friends, family is always a disappointment, who think they would back you you up but its never like that.
Unfortunatelly there is a point when we need to make a decision to think about ourself for our own good, for me personally it is difficult because i so many responsabilities but i hope one day i will be able to change.
I hope you will too.
@Bubbu98
I know right? My family instead of making me feel good about myself they make me feel like I'm not good enough or I'm not "normal" like how you said. I try to focus on myself, try to not let the negativity get to me, but lately I can't.
Regarding friends, I'll just have to see if I can find someone that has the same energy and vibes as me 😔