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How to slow down contact with an online friend?

User Profile: lemontea113
lemontea113 November 23rd, 2023

So if you've read my last post, I discussed how I felt like me and this online friends relationship felt awkward now, and a bit forced. I've come to a decision of deciding to slow down contact because I've thought about it and I just don't feel like we mix well? The thing is, how do I slow down contact? Do I just not text first, and hope they don't text me? Do I tell them I'm not interested in talking anymore? I really don't want to do that tbh, not only because it's just scary to tell someone you don't wanna be friends anymore, but also because what if that hurts her more? She told me she didn't have many friends, and she seems to have low self esteem, I worry that me telling her I don't want to be friends with her will hurt her more? But also, I feel like just disappearing in her life while pretending everything's fine is worse? Maybe since we're online friends, slowing down contact is easier, idk? I just don't know what to do? I want to slow down contact, since I feel like we don't really mix well, but I don't want to hurt her. How should I do this?

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User Profile: adventurousBranch3786
adventurousBranch3786 November 23rd, 2023

@lemontea113. Is it possible to text her less often and see how it goes from there?

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User Profile: lemontea113
lemontea113 OP November 23rd, 2023

Yes, it is! That's actually how I was thinking of dealing with this. Just slowly slowing down the texts.

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User Profile: adventurousBranch3786
adventurousBranch3786 November 23rd, 2023

@lemontea113. I actually did that with someone. In my case we eventually stopped texting after a while.

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User Profile: glisteningLight2506
glisteningLight2506 November 23rd, 2023

@lemontea113 So if you've read my last post, I discussed how I felt like me and this online friends relationship felt awkward now, and a bit forced. I've come to a decision of deciding to slow down contact because I've thought about it and I just don't feel like we mix well? The thing is, how do I slow down contact? Do I just not text first, and hope they don't text me? Do I tell them I'm not interested in talking anymore? I really don't want to do that tbh, not only because it's just scary to tell someone you don't wanna be friends anymore, but also because what if that hurts her more? She told me she didn't have many friends, and she seems to have low self esteem, I worry that me telling her I don't want to be friends with her will hurt her more? But also, I feel like just disappearing in her life while pretending everything's fine is worse? Maybe since we're online friends, slowing down contact is easier, idk? I just don't know what to do? I want to slow down contact, since I feel like we don't really mix well, but I don't want to hurt her. How should I do this?

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User Profile: glisteningLight2506
glisteningLight2506 November 23rd, 2023

@glisteningLight2506 I am sorry - Need this deleted

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