I need advice.
Sooo how do I start. First I want to say I have a hard time forming relationships with men but I also can’t seem to make friends in general. I’m scared to let people in. Throughout all my life I would say no one has witnessed the REAL me except for family. Growing up I witnessed a lot of strained relationships between my mother and her partners. She has have never had much family or support as she grew up the black sheep. In her relationships There were always issues of abuse and cheating in all the relationships. All the males in my life have somehow hurt me or my mother. I was sexually abused and physically abused as well although my mother did not know. I am starting to feel like this is the reason I can’t form relationships with people. I look like a average normal girl so I don’t have an issue getting male attention but If I have an interest in a male as soon as they hit on me I immediately dislike them. What is wrong with me? It’s the same thing with friends I can’t seem to let them know the real me. I’ve had friends groups that I’ve ruined because I choose to stay away instead of engage. I have purposely distanced myself from everyone. It’s odd because my family genuinely thinks I have friends because of how outgoing I am with them. But it is simply not true. I’m starting to feel really lonely as a result but can’t stop doing these things for some reason. Any advice?
Im sorry if this is super long and comes off as self absorbed. Im just really hoping for some advice.
@navyApple8053
I hope being here and reaching out helps.
Just chatting about things can make a difference.
Regarding:
- I’m starting to feel really lonely as a result but can’t stop doing these things for some reason. Any advice?
One option to feel less lonely is to participate in free online Zoom events on topics you like.
Or attend real-life activities, like regular Zumba exercise classes that use music you like.
Then one gets to actually talk to people and see them and feel really connected and even make friends.
Best wishes.
Hi, here lot of good listners are available. Brouse the listners as per your country or language and discuss one to one . You may not get advice ,but surely get courage to face the challenges alone . All the best .
@navyApple8053
I'm sorry You are dealing with this. There are people who do care and hope You can find solutions to Your struggles.
@navyApple8053 Dating is hard for everyone I just try to see if the person has potential or not Dating is undeniably a challenge. However, it's crucial to understand that finding the right person takes time and patience. Putting yourself out there and potentially facing rejection is challenging but settling for someone who doesn't treat you well is not a good thing. It's vital to prioritize your well-being and not compromise on your standards. Remember, the ultimate goal is to find someone who brings happiness into your life, and the journey is worth it in the end.
@navyApple8053
Such situation in small scale is happening with me too. But it seem good for you.
I understand it would be making you nervous , confused and dilmenia too. Few suggestion
Note down in word or sentence the thought keep coming to you when you try to connect with people or pushing away someone like you.
Observe where this thought are coming.
Reason behind it.
Like other said you can try few listener who can listen and help you get insight in it.
