Trauma Support Community Check-in: Monday, 19th October 2020
Hello, wonderful people ! My name is Marcelo. I am a new Forum Supporter here. I applied to serve in this lovely Community because of the soothing warmth it radiates, and the genuine healing work that takes place here. I embrace you all, wish you the best, and promise to work to make it real.
The three questions I propose for this Monday check-in are:
- How are you feeling right now ?
- Share something that made you smile this weekend
- What do you wish to happen in your life the week ahead ?
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@WelcomeToChat
- How are you feeling right now ? I am feeling okay. Just a bit achy.
- Share something that made you smile this weekend. Talking to my mom on the phone
- What do you wish to happen in your life the week ahead ?- some fun, some rest
@Mellietronx
Dear Mellie:
Thank you for your answer !
I am glad to know you feel OK. I wish you those bothersome aches stop as you get moving during the day.
Talking to your mom on the phone was a wise thing to do. I really mean it, because I know people that forget to call their loved ones. A simple thing, but it feeds our soul in the most rewarding way.
I hope you have all the fun and rest you wish this week ! Suggestion: make a list of the funniest activities to you, and schedule time or insert in your to-do list some of these.
Regarding rest, make time for rest sacred.
@WelcomeToChat
Hiya, how gos? Hope your doing pawsome today.
Ima okish. Something that made me smile, my best friend is going to spend a few days with us.
Want for the week ahead...🤔 so many things lol,but to go the week wo getting in trouble lol 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@Fireskye13
Skye:
So great your best friend will be staying with you !
Enjoy and have fun to the fullest with him !
Having a best friend, and being together, is one of the best things in life.
@WelcomeToChat
Hi, Marcelo, welcome and congratulation on your new role as a Forum Supporter in the Traumatic Experiences Community. Your presence feels fresh and engaging!
I will try to answer the three questions from you for this Monday check-in:
- How are you feeling right now?
Exhausted. I spent hours just to finish one assignment from college. And I still have 3 more lol (laughing inside almost hysterically haha)
- Share something that made you smile this weekend.
A friend who I thought already cut ties with me comes back. He's a lot better too, I think, and hopefully this time our friendship will be better too.
- What do you wish to happen in your life the week ahead?
I pray to have straight A for all scores of my college assignments. Or at least B, but I really hope no C or under.
I also pray and wish for the best for my upcoming exam at the end of October 2020. Wish me luck, ok?!
That's all for now. Stay safe, healthy, and happy. Much love and God bless us all!
Xoxo,
UG
@UndomesticGoddess
Thank you so much for your warm words!
You make me feel very valued and welcome.
I remember my time in college. It's like a never-ending treadmill. Exhausting.
And you are at the mercy of your professors' whims...
So hard work is not 100% enough, you also need some luck.
I WISH YOU ALL THE LUCK IN THE WORLD, THAT YOU GET ALL STRAIGHT "A"s IN YOUR ASSIGMENTS !!! AND TOTAL SUCCESS IN YOUR OCTOBER-END EXAM !!!
When you feel exhausted, remember that college is a phase in your life that will eventually end. A crucial one, so all the work you put into it, is worthwhile.
I am very happy for you for regaining a friendship. It's like finding a jewel you had lost. A hugely valuable thing in your life.
I wish you all the best.
Marcelo.
@WelcomeToChat
Awww.. Your encouragement has become a powerful reminder and boost for me to keep going on, no matter how hard it is! (it is very hard for me tbh lol)
And I say AMEN AMEN AMEN to your wish for me; I WISH YOU THE BEST OF LUCK YOU CAN GET IN THIS LIFE TOO, MARCELO!
It's 10.42 pm here and I'm tired, but you just give me extra energy to finish another assignment. One assignment at a time, one thing at a time, one day at a time. Once again, THANK YOU SO MUCH!
@WelcomeToChat
- How are you feeling right now ?
I am feeling alright
- Share something that made you smile this weekend.
I bought a new small blanket, which made me smile. Because a blanket feels safe and comforting
- What do you wish to happen in your life the week ahead ?
I would wish to be more organized and structured
(Ann)
@pencilmarks
Dear Ann:
I am very happy to know you feel well !
It is wise to do things in our life that make us feel good. Like you buying a nice, comforting blanket.
Sometimes we forget that there are simple things we absolutely can do, and will bring us a piece of happiness and even peace and serenity. Like a nice blanket comforting us.
Regarding self-organization, I like "Getting Things Done" by David Allen. Do you now it ? Also "Breathing Space" by Jeff Davidson. They contain down-to-earth tips and practices that are simple to implement, yet very effective.
For the house, Marie Kondo. A little extreme, but orients you to the right track (you don't need to go all the way...).
All the best, Ann !
Keep in touch,
Marcelo.
@WelcomeToChat
How are you feeling: I'm just kind of forcing myself to be neutral right now. I had a breakdown last night that I really needed, and I've learned to frame it as "releasing pressure" rather than "breaking down" so that I can try to view more positively, because for me personally, breakdowns are how I regulate/reset emotions, so I know I need them, and thus I need to try not to be disappointed when they happen. The main reason I tend to dislike them is because they happen for seemingly no reason, besides pressure building up internally that I don't notice until it has to be released. It's just frustrating I guess
Something that made you smile this weekend: I got to vote in a presidential election for the first time, and my fiance and I roasted marshmallows
What do you wish for the week ahead: The next presidential debate is this week, in my city, and it's already filled with unrest, so I'm hoping the chaos is kept to a minimum & most people remain safe
@HumanPersonThingy
It feels like you are coming back from a moment of intense emotions
Calling this intense emotional outlet as "releasing pressure" instead of "breaking down" is the right thing to do.
The Greeks called it “Katharsis” ( καθαρός )
According to them, Katharsis "is a sudden emotional breakdown or climax that constitutes overwhelming feelings of great pity, sorrow, laughter, or any extreme change in emotion that results in renewal, restoration, and revitalization." (quote from article in New World Encyclopedia https://www.newworldencyclopedia.org/entry/Catharsis )
The concept was later famously adopted by Sigmund Freud, as part of the healing process of psychoanalysis.
In Chapter 2 of "7 Cups for the Searching Soul" (the "Bible" of 7 Cups), Glen explains how we move our most disturbing feelings and thoughts to the Unconscious, out of our conscious awareness, so we can function and operate in normal life. But these hidden feelings want to express themselves, be validated as an integral part of our selves. They build an increasing pressure, that has to be released, as you describe.
This eventual release keeps us in equilibrium, as you say. That is why, for example, watching a sad movie, that makes us cry, could be healthy for us at some times.
I loved your marshmallow roasting experience with your fiance. It reminds me of campfires, both in groups and with my girlfriend.
I see that you are very excited about actively participating as a full citizen and voting in the upcoming elections. It will be an event of historic proportions, with a huge influence on the medium-term future of the US, and the world at large.
You will be making history !!!!
The best to you.
Kind regards,
Marcelo
- How are you feeling right now ? - Tired and just don't want to keep going. I don't really see anything to keep me going.
- Share something that made you smile this weekend - Going to a pumpkin patch and seeing my cat Bear.
- What do you wish to happen in your life the week ahead ? - I'm hoping to get a call back for a job!
@Goldcherry2113
Hi !
You seem to be in one of those moments when we lack energy and motivation.
I strongly recommend that you do (even if you have done it before) the exercises in the 7Cups Hope self-help guide. You can find it here: https://www.7cups.com/hope-training
There is a more recent and extended version by the same authors, on their own website. You can find it here: https://hopefulminds.org/curriculum
I would love that you do the exercises and later tell us how they all went, how did you like them, and whether they were useful to you.
Pumpkin patches are great ! I see you love pumpkins, as you have a Halloween pumpkin lantern as your avatar !
I am glad you have a cat. They are such lovely companions ! Give my best to Bear !
AND I WISH YOU ALL THE LUCK IN THE WORLD, THAT THEY CALL BACK TO GIVE YOU THE JOB !!!!
Kind regards,
Marcelo
How are you feeling right now ?
I'm doing well, in school currently which is stressful but other than that I'm well! <3
Share something that made you smile this weekend
Something that made me smile and be happy was the fact that my parents were paying attention to me! They invited me to watch a movie with them which is fairly uncommon for them! :)
What do you wish to happen in your life the week ahead ?
I hope I can finish all my late work for school! That would be really nice, I just need to stay focused
@hellamangled
You seem to be very focused on your studies at school, and that's AWESOME !!!
I also find MARVELOUS the loving relationship you have with your parents.
This is unfortunately very rare nowadays, which makes it more exceptional.
All the best to you !
Kind regards,
Marcelo.
@WelcomeToChat Hey - How are you? It's nice to meet you
How am I feeling? Seem to be going back and forth between depression and anxiety. Sometimes in just a few minutes - sometimes both at once. Idk - details are complicated and hard to explain and Idk - I don't want to come across as some unhinged person - So scratch all that and I'll just amend that and say I'm fine Lol
I got to spend a few hours talking with a really great person - I know it was only online but she's alot of fun and we talk about everything - phone calls and me last about 2 minutes and Idk what to say then lol
Something good for this week? I would need a miracle and thats not going to happen. In all honesty - this week is only going to get worse - unless that miracle shows up and it won't - it can't
Thank you for the checkin
@mytwistedsoul
Yeah ! Let's say you are fine !!!!
Hey, you have reached the "phone call" level with this great, fun girl !
The fact that you seemed nervous by phone, lets her know that you really care about her. It's not a bad thing.
Regarding your week ahead, I'm afraid I disagree: MIRACLES HAPPEN !!!
All the best to you !
Marcelo