Traumatic Experiences Community Daily CheckIn Friday 9th June 2017
Hey everyone! It's finally Friday!
Checkin questions:
1) How are you today on a scare of 1-10 and why?
2) What is one positive thing you can do for yourself today?
3) What are somethings you like about yourself?
4) What is a small goal that you have for today or in the next few days?
5) What is something you need today?
1) I'm doing well today because most of the things I need to do are things I like doing.
2) One positive thing I'm doing for myself is meditating and practicing harp before I begin working on my to do list.
3) I like my self-care, smile, laugh, sense of humor, kindness, motivation and organization.
4) Finish admin for the summer art program and order new harp strings for the full size harp.
5) Music to bounce to.
I look forward to hearing from everyone, Mary
@MKJart
I like where you are in your growth process. It's good to see it written out because it reminds me that I need to roll up my sleeves and get to work on making a better life. I need lots of reminders and encouragement and that's one of the things I love about this place.
You are awesome by the way. 🙂
Keep up the good work - it really shows!!
@themainjane
Thanks Jane! I appreciate your words. Everyone processes differently. I'm a doer, but sometimes when I do to much, I get overwhelmed and have to dial it back. It's not worth it to go faster than you're ready for- I have to remind myself that.
@MKJart
You make a very good point, Mary.
@TheAsh Hi Ash, just adding the names to your post. Thank you for getting it going this morning.
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1) I'm a 6 today, which is pretty good. My head is still reeling from Tuesday's therapy session. It was one of those that kind of destabilized my worldview in a good way, but that never feels good at first.
2) Exercise, which I enjoy but don't often do. But I have the past two days.
3) I'm not up for this question. This is where I struggle.
4) Replace the cut-off valves under the kitchen sink, now that my back is starting to feel up to it.
5) I have no idea.
@TheAsh
I ll rate myself a 5. I had a really pleasant sleep last night which I desperately needed. One thing positive I am doing is I started reading a new book and I hope to go downtown and treat myself to a fish dinner this afternoon.
@philosophicalShip9444
Does reading before bed help you sleep better? It works for me, but it's also one of those things that I mean to make time for and often don't.
@coraline23
I read yesterday in the mid evening Iam not sure if that aided in my rest. I guess time will tell. Nice job on the excercising by the way.
@TheAsh
1) How are you today on a scare of 1-10 and why?
I am about 7-8 still trying to let things settle in my head and around me.
2) What is one positive thing you can do for yourself today?
Today I am going to get my hair shaved and cut
3) What are somethings you like about yourself?
I like my humor, my caring for others, my art talents etc
4) What is a small goal that you have for today or in the next few days?
My 1 goal is to not let others emotions or issues become mine. To learn to let go and let be and only focus on my behaviors and thoughts
5) What is something you need today?
I need understanding and time with space too
@RumpleSteeleSkin
Hi Rumple
I hope your day is filled with four and five.
Take care, Mary
@MKJart
aaawww that was sweet-thanks
@TheAsh
1) How are you today on a scare of 1-10 and why?
high 9 or 10
2) What is one positive thing you can do for yourself today?
Believe in myself and start to think about one good think like about myself
3) What are somethings you like about yourself?
My eyes
4) What is a small goal that you have for today or in the next few days?
To think about one good thing I like about myself and trust myself
5) What is something you need today?
Talk with my listener and take a dog for a walk..
@conscientiousPineapple1782
To think about one good thing I like about myself and trust myself
This resonated with me. Thank you for this.
Checkin questions:
1) How are you today on a scare of 1-10 and why?
A 3.
Got triggered earlier this week, and it's been a daily struggle for me to stay grounded ever since. Still not sleeping as well as I'd like (though had a better night last night compared to the rest of this past week) as I continue to have trouble reigning in critical thoughts and the resulting 4F (fight/flight/freeze/fawn) overreaction. Motivation in general is severely lacking (just wanna hide in bed), but am trying my best to not let the inner critic dominate and demoralize too much, to remain self compassionate while riding out the symptoms as best I can.
2) What is one positive thing you can do for yourself today?
Eat something out of pleasure, not just utilitarian duty.
3) What are somethings you like about yourself?
I...can't today. CTRL-C/CTRL-V something from yesterday's "love yourself" post. Sorry.
4) What is a small goal that you have for today or in the next few days?
Laundry -- desperately needs to be done. Also, maybe arrange a visit with a friend, in person. Recent isolation is probably not helping things.
5) What is something you need today?
Encouragement/grounding, a listener with time to listen, maybe even a kick in the bum.
@melliotm
Critical thoughts keep me up at night too. I've had luck with a combination of melatonin, reading/listening to music to distract myself and clear my head before going to bed, and doing a mindfulness/relaxation/breathing exercise while I fall asleep. It's really hard to feel good about yourself and get things done when you're not sleeping properly.
@coraline23 Yes, quiet music and mindfullness exercises/meditation are also part of my bedtime routine, and help immensely (melatonin doesn't do much for me for some reason). Is more the overactive dream life and waking up several times a night in a state of either confusion or terror (or both) that has been my primary issue of late. Clearly there are things that I still need to work through. Is all part of the process of healing/adapting/accepting.
@melliotm
I get that too. I messed up my back last week tossing and twisting in my sleep. Reading before bed keeps the nightmares down for me, but it doesn't always work. It's so frustrating when you're doing everything you can do and are still struggling. But you're right--it's a process. And it's shitty that you have to go through this for something that isn't your fault.
@coraline23 It sucks royally. At least there are always silly gifs to pass the time and maybe even provoke a slight grin.
@melliotm
I'll answer #3 for you: I admire you for your expressive writing style, your willingness to reach out when you need it, how you support others when they need it too, your sense of humor, your intelligence, your drive to keep moving forward.
You can do this!!!
Hey is there any room in the blanket fort for me and can I have some salted caramel chocolayes too?
<3 Hugs, Mary
@MKJart Thanks Mary -- there is always room for you in the fort. :) @TreesandWine has the goodies!
1) How are you today on a scare of 1-10 and why?
I never know how to answer these scaled Questions. It's all so relative ya know? It wouldn't be a very high number today because I've been messing up a lot lately.
2) What is one positive thing you can do for yourself today?
I don't really deserve a positive thing for myself today but I've got lots I need to do (which won't get done)
3) What are somethings you like about yourself?
Pass
4) What is a small goal that you have for today or in the next few days?
Get back on my meds, back to helping out and no drinking.
5) What is something you need today?
To not be hungover
@themainjane
Hi Jane,
Sorry you are having a rough day. You deserve positive experiences, people and things in your life even if you messed up. They aren't mutually exclusive. I wonder if there is a way to catch yourself when you think "I don't deserve...." statements and reframe it.
This is probably going to age me, but there was a tv show called The Gong Show- I don't know how many years old. It was an older version of America's Got Talent. If someone was bad or their time was up, they got the gong and had to leave the stage. There are trailers of the show on the internet if you can't picture it. When I have a critical voice come up in my head, I give it the gong and then try to reframe it. If anything else, it makes me laugh.
@MKJart
Thank you. I never watched the gong show but I do know what it is. It's a good idea to give bad thoughts "the gong"