Traumatic Experiences Community Daily Check-In Friday December 22nd 2017
Hi everyone. 
I'm sorry this post is late to go up. I was in this morning taking some chats, and I just noticed that no post was made yet so I thought I would put one up.
This season is quite a busy one. There is much stress, and many triggers to be found. In many cultures and faith's, this season is one of a Joyous Holiday. Somehow stress finds it's way in there. I hope alle can do well in finding the joy and the wonder around us. Usually it's the simple things that bring us the most happiness.
There will be a Special Discussion today at 2pm EST in the Trauma Support room. The topic will be "Managing difficult situations and people during the holidays." Followed by a Special Trauma Support Open Chat session at 4pm EST. We hope to see you there!
Anyways, welcome to a new day! This is a safe place, please feel welcome to pop in, let us know how your holiday season is going so far, or just say hi.
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I start to realize the root cause of my commitment issues finally.I never was able to fully commit and never understood why.Today it just started to come to me.Connecting the dots.Quite a relief actually.The way I love isn't what wounds people I love.It's safe for me to love.It was never about me.It was about how people responded to me when I tried to love them in the past.
@Morfo66 A Brilliant realization Morf! Like GI Joe says, "Knowing is half the battle". I hope you are doing well today, I'm here today if you need or wish, though I may go play on my quat a few now I have new tires. ;)
Much Love hon.
@Raveninthelabrynth
Indeed it's...Thanks!<3 I'll be fine for now, need some time to think but this all means a lot, like a lot-lot so thanks for that!:) Oh, and have fun!
@Morfo66 It's My Pleasure Dear.
and thanks, m onnit 
I need to work on Christmas stuff today (haven
@BeeLeigh ya I'm with you on the laundry thing.
Hope alle else is well.
Ive had a productive week as far as getting tasks accomplished but have been having a few rough weeks emotionally with feeling withdrawn, distant and disconnected and have been trying to figure out whats going on. I know Im feeling hesitant about all of the family interactions coming up over the next week but I think an even bigger issue is wrapping my head around the concept of truly holding space for someone and what this looks like in reality in the context of a romantic relationship. I tend to get caught up in my head when something is bothering me and things are never simple. I feel like my partner and I may be coming to a crossroads in our relationship, where I need to decide if love is enough for me. He is very kind and supportive of me but also has a minor brain injury which was confirmed this year. He is very much in denial and believes it does not impact him - he is not willing to learn about it or get help with strategies to improve day to day things. This injury effects his insight. As he is the first man / relationship Ive been in where Ive been treated with genuine love and kindness Im having a very difficult time as I have to make the decision to just accept to live life filling in the gaps for him and lifting a life less full than otherwise possible or the alternative of parting ways. Im really having a hard time.....
@purpleWest8143 Hugs hon, I hope you don't dwell on it so much you miss the joy around you. Interacting with someone with a brain injury can be tough indeed. Map out everything so it becomes clear. Also, if it's written you don't have to think on the same factor over and over. We're alle here with you if you need us.
@Raveninthelabrynth this is super helpful advice. Im trying to get back into the habit and routine of daily journaling so my head doesnt spin all the time. And yes , I dont want to be consumed with this this when I should be focusing on taking in the joyful moments as well as already know there will be difficult interactions coming up with family that will need my focus to manage effectively.
@purpleWest8143 My Pleasure Dear. We're here for you if you need or wish us.
@purpleWest8143
Do you think it would help you guys to go so some kind of low key relationship counselling for coping with change? You could frame the suggestion as something you need if he is reluctant to see the changes himself initially. Just a thought, ignore it if it doesn't help.
@Kuma0187 relationship counselling is always a good idea for everyone and something we ARE doing 😉 but yes, reframing it to something that I need might be a good approach because part of the issue sort of comes down to what I can handle taking on right now. Ie, having to manage all the finances etc. Gets to be too much for me.
@purpleWest8143
I hope it will really help. It isn't easy I know. I am wishing you success with it :) x
I just saw when the group chats were today and I've already missed them.. shame because I probably needed them but I have been so so busy today.
Two friends tracked me down here and made contact after more than a year yesterday as a surprise. After they left today I went to do most of the rest of the preparations for xmas. So I have had a wonderful, emotionally exhausting and generally exhausting day. But everything has succeeded and I have two very good friends back in my life again. Gotta love people who take the time to cross borders just to have a cup of tea with you! It blew me away actually. I cried so hard when they left.
@Kuma0187 glad to see u got to see your friends. It is humbling when people make efforts like that.
@inventiveOrange1
It really is. I won't get out of contact with them again like I did.
@Kuma0187 That is a wonderful telling to hear Kuma. You are Blessed.
@Raveninthelabrynth :) :P hi lols
@Jesse9675
Hoot An Phoohey it's cold out there. I just got back in from my quad ride. I looked at the temperature, an the thermometer said there isnt one! 
