Traumatic Experiences Community Daily Check-in: Friday, 6th March 2020
Hey Trauma Community,
Todays Topic Write a letter to past self
so your probably wondering why this topic why write a letter well I was browsing through for some topic ideas that group therapies may discuss I was trying to find a suitable forum check-in topic, it then hit my mind writing a letter to our past selves from what we know now if your healing from trauma even if you're not quite there yet you may have learnt new tips to help you toward healing.
things you can put in your letter
tips
comforting words
encouragement
Quotes song lyrics etc
basically anything you feel should be there can be vague if uncomfortable going into detail can be not so vague if you wish to share it up to you.
Check-in Questions
what sorts of things would you include in your letter and why - side note if comfortable sharing
what tips would you tell yourself in this letter
in your letter would you tell them to do anything differently from how you have if so why
would you include quotes/song lyrics that help you if so which ones
The topic is completely up to you if you join in if not comfortable can just do a regular check in a how you doing anything going well/not so well and you wish to share.
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@CaringBrit don't think this is something o should be doing today
@crimsonLime6525 thats totally fine lime how are you feeling today
@CaringBrit not a good day, full of regret hate and anger
@crimsonLime6525 sorry to hear that lime hugs if youd like one lime and or will accept one
@CaringBrit thank you ❤️
@crimsonLime6525
Can I offer you some safe hugs, if that is ok?
@admaiorasemper thank you ❤️
@CaringBrit
What an incredibly difficult letter to write... and what a potential for healing...
I can't focus on it right now, I am not sure it would be a good idea, but I want to thank you for this post.
@admaiorasemper your welcome and totally ok you can even if you prefer do this in your pivacy but just mention vaguely what would go in their but completly up to you
Included in my letter
I'd have a long monologue about underlying body image issues that I've had longer than I even realized. I'd also include some things about what trauma can be & how it's never overly dramatic, how manipulative people can be, how wonderful people can be, explore what love means and how I prefer to give / receive it.
Tips & Do Differently:
- Every experience and relationship teaches me something, even if it was a very painful experience.
- Have patience and trust facts rather than opinions. Impatience and trusting opinions (even those of professionals) only worsened my self image and body image. So trust myself, how my body feels.
- Find movement that is enjoyable.
- Take pride in getting more sleep, not how little sleep you can 'live' off of because trust me, you're not entirely lucid haha
- Self-care and meditation are not cheesy. They're not trope-y. Black women do need therapy, too. It doesn't make me weak or 'crazy'. Better yet, question those who say therapy makes me weak or crazy. What things might they be dealing with to project onto me?
- Don't focus on fitting in so much. There have been people who try to alientate me from my own community, family, and self. Don't give so much power to what they think. As long as I'm not breaking a law, causing harm to myself, or causing harm to others, I'm fine. People project insecurities onto who they think are weak and that has nothing to do with me.
- Eat enough. Focus mindfully on how each bite feels. Appreciate where the food came from. Acknowledge that I have an abundance of food and there is no logical reason to restrict it or get rid of it through binging. Food has no morals. People do. A person's "morals" can be rooted in disordered thoughts. I am more susceptible to other people's morals than I thought and that partially led to my disorder. Figure out what my own morals and values are and trust those instead. Trust that my body knows what it's doing. Food is nourishing in different ways. Some offer more for the body, some offer more for the soul.
- Be gentle with myself. I'm human. Perfection is a myth.
Thank you for the check-in! This has been incredibly helpful and relieving! I actually felt myself relax even more just writing this here. Can't wait to write it in my journal too.
@Lexloveslife thankyou for taking part lex such a long letter it would be but so true in every way i love the tips youd add the doing differently bits too and your welome im so happy to hear you found this check in calming
hugs
Check-in Questions
what sorts of things would you include in your letter and why - side note if comfortable sharing? Life is not that bad, you have food, shelter, cable tv, and most of all family and friends. You may not be where you want with your guy friend or writing but give it time
what tips would you tell yourself in this letter? walk more, be patient, and write whenever you can..read more
in your letter would you tell them to do anything differentlyn from how you have if so why? I'm not sure because for some reason, I think a higher being needs me here..I'm just not sure why yet.
would you include quotes/song lyrics that help you if so which ones. I have a playlit for myself and many meme on my instagram.
@Rebekahwriter13 love your includes in the letter rebekah ty for sharing and im sure whatever that reason for you being where you currently are is a good one how have you been
