Traumatic Experiences Community Daily Check-in: Monday October 15th
Happy Monday Trauma Community!
The weather is getting colder where I am and it's a great time of year to cuddle up with a warm blanket and a good movie.
I don't particularly enjoy going to the movie theater and prefer cuddling on the couch at home, but I have been reading a lot about the new remake of A Star Is Born starring Lady Gaga and Bradley Cooper. Has anyone seen it? If you are thinking of seeing the movie, I have been hearing that it is very well-done but there are also some parts that may be triggering.
Lady Gaga has been doing a lot of press lately and I have been impressed by some of her interviews.
Gaga has been open about speaking about her past experience with trauma and said the following quote that I thought was really well-said:
"If someone is assaulted, or experiences trauma, there is science, and scientific proof, its biology, that people change. The brain changes. And literally, what it does, is it takes the trauma and it puts it in a box, and it files it away and shuts it so that we can survive the pain."
Having celebrities speak out about trauma or mental health helps open up the conversation and show that trauma is, unfortunately, very common. What do you think about this quote from Lady Gaga and how she describes trauma?
- Have you come across any quotes from celebrities that impress you? Either by speaking out about their own experience with trauma or helping show support?
- How are you feeling going into this week? What support do you need?
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@Kate
There was a 3 day conference nearby recently, opening with a video message from Oprah Winfrey. Her words are exactly how I feel.
Unless you fix the trauma thats caused people to be the way they are, youre working on the wrong thing.
I understand in a more complete way that the hole in the soul, where the wound started, is where we need to focus."
@affectionateNorth4018
love those quotes north, they are so true!
@affectionateNorth4018
love those quotes.... lots of truth in it, definitely...
kinda helpful to see that even those great idols are struggling with the same stuff as we do...
hope you're having a good day 
@ImperfectCherry
I'm not even sure what a good day is anymore. Sorry for being so depressing...
@affectionateNorth4018
no need to be sorry about that, not at all.... yeah, sometimes it feels like the bad days just never end... I hope you can find sth to do for yourself to make the day at least a bit better... offering some safe hugs if you'f like them :)
@affectionateNorth4018 I love her words
@Kate
I'm okay.
There's some lingering trauma about a boy who.....left.
Thing is....I'm blitzing through transitioning into a young woman, and I'm struggling with reconciling trauma from the past in order to move forward.
It really sucks.....as.....I've tried to contact him over the years.....to no avail whatsoever.
However, as I was making my through transitioning, I got an idea.....that I would...contact him again as I was resolving a lot of karmic imbalances between myself and others....basically, I had a lot of interpersonal relationships with trauma left over.
Basically, I was asking them to delete old photos.....he was one of them.
And, yeah.
From there, a lot of things were said....put on the table and things were said that were said.
However, though he was responsive towards the photos.......he was deeeead silent on anything that was discussed that was even REMOTELY deep.
God, it was sooo bad.
I've been struggling with the idea that I might never get the closure I feel I need.
That his no response to anything I said is a response.
It's gutwrenching.....but I need MY heart, power, soul, and peace of mind back.
And that's been a process.
I just can't live like this anymore....cognitively preoccupied with someone who.....I just don't want to be with.....who I don't feel.....
Makes the cut now.
So....I'm healing.
Feels good.....and I know I'll be okay....but that situation left me with a PTSD.......and I'm struggling....still responding to a stressor that is no longer there.
I found out he worked at a bakery at LA now (we were in Florida now we're not).....and I wanted sooooo bad to pop over and just....not even argue....just seee the person behind all these preoccupations and just be like "im here.....you are small.....and you're nothing to me".....
But....yeah....I called his house....pretending to be a friend from school to try and see if I could get him to call me.
Craaaaazy shit I know......but....whatever. I'm over it now.
But the process of healing can be taxing.
*sigh*
/shrugs
@Kate
Good morning
@Kate i agree with lady gaga her story is inspiring
@Kate
- Have you come across any quotes from celebrities that impress you? Either by speaking out about their own experience with trauma or helping show support?
lately can't consetrate sometimes on reading
- How are you feeling going into this week? What support do you need?
I feel today bit bored... sometimes seams having good life is being bit bored.
MYB TOO MUCH FOCUS ON HOW THINGS SUPOSE TO BE-.- .
weel enyways feeling preety much safe lately and less empty
Today I had fun with naiber dog, enjoyed watching tv...and had just great day withought thinking how it supose to be..
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That gif is me and my dog. Blankets and naps. :)
@Npepsicola
oooh I like that blankets and naps, yepp, truely the best for this time of year, oh no wait, all year round lol 
@Npepsicola its totally me and my cats today too
@kate
I think there is truth in that quote. I'm changed and I'll never be who I was or could have been.
I've started to be okay with hugs from those here, some days. Today I could really use some hugs.
@practicalIdeal2007
hey Ideal, hey that's a great step that you can accept hugs here sometimes so sending a bunch of safe hugs your way
@practicalIdeal2007
huuuuugs for you *feels honoured to hug you* 
@practicalIdeal2007
I understand those days so here is a safe hug from me. Hope that's ok.
@ImperfectCherry @LifeIsMyCanvas @RedHawk6547 @NoneTheWiser
Thank you for the hugs. They mean a lot today.
I finally found my way home after a long day.
I have a photographic memory and have experienced a lot of different traumas in my life. Most I haven't dealt with totally. Unfortunately I don't feel my new therapist and I connect. They are always,"What do you want to get out of therapy". Coping skills. Not just angry, depressed, anxious, or numb. I like any dialogue on trauma that doesn't revictimized the victim and keeps the conversation flowing. I would agree with Lady Gaga. I shut my pain away because it made people who did nothing to support my experiences feel guilty. Still have trouble because I can't be honest or deal with the trauma yet fully but I'm trying. @Kate
@Kate
I don't think my trauma is in a box. It formed me and made me who I am. My trauma is me