Traumatic Experiences Community Daily Check in for December 2nd 2018
Hello lovelys! Christmas is just around the corner! I hope you all are excited for Christmas just like I am! So as you guys know trauma can put these shadow of everyones evil and nothing is good over the world. So when something good happens (like a holiday) you cant enjoy it like you used to. So my questions for you today are:
Do you have that shadow over everything?
Are you able to enjoy the holidays?
If not, how can we support you through these rough times?
and just for fun, what do you want for Christmas?
Remember this is your safe place! *Safe hugs*
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@krispykitty12
Idk how excited I am for Christmas this year , a lot of things are going to happen with my family
I also hope my older sister does not get proposed to bc her boyfriend is such a bad influence
At least the snow is pretty and it's always fun seeing the lights on people's houses
Our tree is really beautiful this year
Also HAPPY HANUKKAH for anyone who celebrates!!
It starts this evening but idk if anyone's already there with the time difference
I'm a senior in high school and I've already got accepted into the colleges I want so I am so done with school
I know the American school system revolves around the western traditions and the Jewish calendar isn't used by the majority of the population
But this happens every year where all of Hanukkah is during school.
It doesn't effect me that much but it sucks for people who celebrate it
@wittySpruce8187 sorry you can
@krispykitty12
Do you have that shadow over everything?
There is an overwhelming darkness over everything. It often seems impossible to see past it.
Are you able to enjoy the holidays?
There are too many things that happened during or around the holidays. I will need to spend 2.5 weeks in the house where it all started. With the people and monsters responsbile for my childhood. I won't be able to enjoy the holidays.
If not, how can we support you through these rough times?
Offer hugs, although I may not be able to accept them when I'm at that house. Ask if I am okay. Understand that I might rant, vent or seem unglued at times. Just listen (or read).
and just for fun, what do you want for Christmas?
For Christmas I don't want things or money. I want to be hugged for real by someone who cares. I want to be loved for me just the way I am.
@practicalIdeal2007 I want the same thing for Christmas! I
@practicalIdeal2007
Sending safe hugs
@practicalIdeal2007 I don
@practicalIdeal2007
We hear you, Ideal. I hope you know you're not alone in the holidays being difficult. I think how you feel is really understandable. And that sounds like a wonderful thing to want for Christmas.
I hope maybe you'll check in with us while you have to be in that environment. Let us know how you're doing or just have some company while there. We care, and we can all support one another through the season. I was wondering if you have a plan for that visit, like if things get overwhelming? Sometimes it helps me to leave a room for a bit, go out siteseeing, do some deep breathing quietly around people, carry something in my pocket to ground me, etc. Are there comfort items you can bring, like a favorite book to read, movie to watch at night, stuffed animal to sleep with?
@krispykitty12
Hi. I am able to enjoy the holidays with my daughter. It's when she is with her dad that I struggle. Not sure what the holidays will bring this year. I just want her to have a happy and fun Christmas.
@RedHawk6547 aww! Your daughter is lucky to have you as a mother! Happy holidays!
Do you have that shadow over everything? sometimes but that is my mind in worst case scenario, it I get just a chance to enjoy the holiday I try my darnest
Are you able to enjoy the holidays? I try to but I have to be clever with my money. When I think, i over think and things get to be bitter sweet.
If not, how can we support you through these rough times? just an idea but Christmas wishes and online Christmas or holiday cards, or birthday greetings as my birthday is Dec 13th
and just for fun, what do you want for Christmas? I have medium list of small stuff like pillows, notebooks, pens, but my bigger gift would be a space of my own, our living space is very tight for four people
@Rebekahwriter13 happy early birthday!! I
@krispykitty12 thank you
For me Christmas is very triggering. I am a single mother and have always struggled to get by, it's as if Santa Claus himself is kicking me in the head. Two of my children are now grown and on their own, my third is a teen. I am doing much better than in years past and even still Christmas is hard. I'm not Christian and yet this holiday is crammed down my throat every year. I give gifts and have a caring spirit all year long. My family now celebrates winter solsitce instead where we come together and share experience, strenght and hope over shared food.
While I appreciate people celebrating Christmas, at times it seems imposing and over whelming, leading me to isolate.
@niceMaple6886 I
I don't know what that means, no so this time of year is kind of hard on me. Idk but I'm alright I don't want anything for Christmas. I would have to say nothing material I would say love, happiness, friendship and most of all good health.
@MelanieDaniels63 awesome things to wish for!
@krispykitty12 Thanks ! Have a great day/night.
Hello
I dont celebrate the holidays so they have no special significance for me. However, if I could just wish for something right now, I think I would wish for peace. Peace of mind and inner peace. I read about it and I hear about it but I think its been a very long time since Ive experienced it. I would love to just be able to breathe. To feel safe enough to stay within myself instead of feeling like I have to climb outside of myself so often. Im not even sure what that means but it rings true. Does anybody else ever get that? You say something, and youre not really sure entirely what it means, but on some level you just know it to be true. I guess maybe its a PTSD/dissociation thing. Not too sure. But I surely would love to feel peaceful or calm inside. That sounds amazing. Maybe Ill get there someday. I hope.
@pioneeringBanana1598 you will for sure get there one day! We are all on your side!!! *safe hugs*
@pioneeringBanana1598
I get what you're saying. I have moments like that too, like when something clicks in my head but is hard to put into words. My ultimate goal is really similar to yours i think, to have calm in my mind. My goal used to be to be happy, but lately i think happiness is something that occurs in moments and not an end state. I dunno. I don't think i want to stop feeling sad, i just want to not be tormented. Peace.
What the hell is wrong with me 😥😥😥
@dynamicShip37 what
@dynamicShip37
You're in a place where i think many of us have asked ourselves that same question. You're not alone. We're here if you want to talk about it.
@SentientiaPoecile I just cant do it anymore. More and more people are being hurt. All thanks to a few of us not speaking up
@dynamicShip37
Do you mean like in society, or with people around you?
I think usually traumatic effects can have a lot of different causes at the same time. Sometimes it's hard to pin it to any single event or reason. Some bad things happen even when we've done everything we could. :( It's hard to make sense of any of it.
@SentientiaPoecile people around me. A couple in particular who are closer to where I live so I notice when they arnt there. One is so unwell she hasnt been home to stay for months. She is in and out of hospital and has become really withdrawn. We are a quite a large community but smaller group where we are
@dynamicShip37
I understand why you would be concerned about her. I think it's very kind and thoughtful of you. I hope that things will be ok soon for her.
I hope that you don't blame yourself too heavily for her pain or what someone else may have done to her. I think sometimes our brains make those connections, but it's not always that simple, even if we think we could have stopped something. I know i don't know the whole story though, so please forgive me if i got something wrong. I'm just concerned that you aren't carrying more burden than you have to. I hope your day looks brighter soon hun.
@SentientiaPoecile thank you :(
